I Have a Problem

So, I have been in US for 7 months. It's been very different and difficult for me. My life in Indonesia was more easy and simple plus I was close with my family.

My dream was to come with my husband, study, and have a life. But it's too difficult. I have been wanting to go home back for while now.

So, today, I just told my husband again that I can't handle it. He told me, if I don't like it or have problem, we will go back. But now he doesn't want to go back.

He wants to finish his career he sacrificed in US to bring me here. And I can't handle it here.

I have many issues with his family. His little brother disrespect me. I know he tries to make life good in US but I don't feel want to be here. I just want to go back.

If I go back and he doesn't come, I think marriage is over. He abandoned me in Indonesia while make his life alone in US.

He is close to buy a ticket to send me back but I don't know what to do?

4meAndyou · F

It sounds as though family is very important to you, and you are experiencing culture shock. If you leave your husband and return home, will you feel just as miserable because you have left your husband?

When there is a huge life decision like this, sit down and write down all the good things on one sheet of paper about living in the US and write all the bad things on another sheet of paper. Do the same thing with the idea of going home.

Number each good thing and each bad thing. Then count them.