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I Have a Problem

So, I have been in US for 7 months. It's been very different and difficult for me. My life in Indonesia was more easy and simple plus I was close with my family.

My dream was to come with my husband, study, and have a life. But it's too difficult. I have been wanting to go home back for while now.

So, today, I just told my husband again that I can't handle it. He told me, if I don't like it or have problem, we will go back. But now he doesn't want to go back.

He wants to finish his career he sacrificed in US to bring me here. And I can't handle it here.

I have many issues with his family. His little brother disrespect me. I know he tries to make life good in US but I don't feel want to be here. I just want to go back.

If I go back and he doesn't come, I think marriage is over. He abandoned me in Indonesia while make his life alone in US.

He is close to buy a ticket to send me back but I don't know what to do?

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zeeva70 · F

Adjusting to another country is difficult, takes time, and a support system of people who understnd what you're going through. Do you know other people or a group that you can join of people from Indonesia in the US? Perhaps you all can get together to cook and share stories.

Second, going home for a visit is probably all you need to help adjust too instead of going back permanently so talk to your husband about that. Perhaps you can go home for a visit periodically instead of ending your marriage after being in the US for 7 months. You'll come back refreshed.

Last, think about your life goals. What would you like to accomplish (i.e. start a business, further your education, etc.)? Write down the steps you need to take to get there. Get excited about life again.

I know during the holiday season, being away from family is particularly difficult. I'm wishing you the best.