I Have A Confesson

See a psychologist

I’m not being sarcastic

I think we are masochists and even if we do what we feel is right deep down you still get pulled away by something deeper 😵

Maybe that cold and dark is something that's coming from within YOU.

I think you have an unconscious belief that, for some reason, it's not going to work out - that it's going to cause pain - that you're going to be hurt, again. Law of attraction is unerring. You broadcast the vibration which matches that belief, which attracts into your reality people who validate what you're afraid is going to happen. Then you get to be right; time after time, they're not good for you. However, there's security in the consistency and familiarity of your finding people who [i]aren't[/i] good for you, which satisfies the needs of the agenda your operating, which encourages the cycle's continuation.

Focus on and practice having the relationship with [i]yourself[/i] you would like to share with someone else. Find satisfaction within it and focus on those things and good feelings you really enjoy about it. When you carry [i]with[/i] you that relationship you've always wanted, not only will it not matter what other people do, since you'll know there's no way you can [i]lose[/i] your relationship, but you will then be broadcasting the vibration of [i]that[/i] successful relationship which will attract matches to [i]IT[/i].

Be patient. Don't think the relationship isn't happening just because it's not in physical evidence yet. The evidences will become apparent as your happiness expands within the [i]journey[/i], not something to be achieved as the destination. Loving yourself is the most attractive thing you can show other people. And don't worry when, in contrast, the momentum of the old agenda makes itself known. As stubborn as it might be, keep reaching for better feeling thoughts and having fun with it, and the momentum of the new agenda will eventually overtake that of the old.

Good Luck. 🤗

I think many of us are attracted to the wrong people.

I wish I had an answer for you. I don`t like to see anyone struggle. 😟

During your childhood years, it is somewhat likely that your parents modeled this type of love. It is also likely that your self esteem was so thoroughly squashed that you allow yourself to continue like this.

If I were you, I would learn, first, how to be happy entirely alone. THEN, once you have learned how to care about yourself, and how to nurture yourself, re-assess your own foundations.

No suggestions, but I can give a male perspective on this. One of the things that frustrates me about our culture is the image that polite, responsible, caring men are not sexy. But "bad boys" are.

Know your value! Put yourself first, and recognize you need not fix the broken ones. Rather, acknowledge your worthy of the finest man out there.

One choice you can make, either seek out the good ones, or just enjoy the ride as long as it last. 🤪😔🤗🥰

I feel for you.
No suggestions sadly but if you find an answer please let me know.

Sometimes, you have no control. You just get drawn to certain type of people.

Sounds like you need to try & find a balance so you can get what you need but not suffer for it. Yeh, I know easier said than done.

I have the opposite problem. I can only find very vanilla girls.

Hope you can find whati good for you. All the best. 🙂

You'll need to defeat that demon. It should be a life lesson.. you should refuse to accept less than you deserve, even if that means being alone. And btw.. I am not just talking to you, I am talking to me too.

Abstain from the thrill of a relationship? (Or at least work on delaying it)

Focus on the trusting bond.

Also, trust your family/friend’s opinions. They see so much more than we do when we are clouded with our lust.

The better ones can come with pain too
Such is life

“Only with the pain of our passing, do we derive such pleasures”

Paul Durcan ☘️

We always want what we can’t have ... the crazy ones are the funnest until the toxic comes out

Look at the pain underneath the addiction and feel your way through it, maybe with the help of a close friend or counselor.