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I Am Feeling Confused and Unsure

I feel terrible for my new landlord. Shes 65 and her husband is 75 and he has dementia. She works fulltime and she has had terrible luck with tenants. She lives on the first floor and i moved into the third. The guy on the second is really loud and inconsiderate to her.
I was in that situation with loud inconsiderate neighbors for 6 years. Thats why i moved. Now shes going through it.

She wants me to help her evict him but i kind of dont want to get involved. She wants me to accompany her to court to help her with paperwork. Idk what to do. I kind of dont want to get involved but it hurts me to see her cry and suffer.

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MrBlueGuy

Yeah that's a tough situation. I mean you could certainly draft a letter of support I'm not sure I would go so far as to accompany anyone to court. I'm guessing she has already has issued him noise complaints? I mean if she has she might want to just ask him to leave otherwise she will evict him. If he's not responsive then yeah she'll have to go through the eviction process but as a landlord it's her responsibility to know what forms to fill out and to know the various tenant acts of that region. It is sticky though because yes you don't know want to see anyone suffer but you also don't want to make anyone else's problems your own.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@MrBlueGuy yeah true. Shes an old lady and hardly speaks english.

MrBlueGuy

@DarkSideoftheMoon Do you speak her native language? Because if not it would be better if she goes with someone who does regardless or really contact an attorney that does because they'd be even more helpful.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@MrBlueGuy i dont soeak her language but i understand her because my grandmother had her same accent. I think she needs a lawyer, definitely

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

If she is the landlord she can force him out with just the loud music alone. You don't really need to go to court over it

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DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@smileylovesgaming but this guy doesnt care about himself or anyone else. His dad pays his rent and he doesnt work. He just drinks all day and brings friends over

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

@DarkSideoftheMoon doesn't matter who pays. If the dad does come around tell him to many complaints.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@smileylovesgaming true

hlpflwthat · M

I can understand your hesitation - and your empathy. What she likely needs is an attorney for the eviction and an ear for the rest. Maybe being that ear would be your better option.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@hlpflwthat yeah. She needs a lawyer. I can be an ear

hlpflwthat · M

@DarkSideoftheMoon And where are her kids??

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@hlpflwthat theyre pretty useless

SW-User

Decide in yourself. Follow your gut and how you care emotionally. There is way to say, if they have these conditions, needing support in income in rental the tenants aren't liable, but some people are untenable and can be too much.

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DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@SW-User i think she needs police reports

SW-User

@DarkSideoftheMoon She will need that, likely repeatedly. As what I said is also true, the tenant is not responsible for if they need help in income with offering apartments to rent. Cohabitating a place is always difficult.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@SW-User she said once hes gone she wants to leave that apartment empty and just keep me on the third floor.

AndrewC1993 · 31-35, M

She needs help from someone who can help her. Like a carer and a lawyer.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@AndrewC1993 true. She told me her son is going to help her so im off the hook. Yay

AndrewC1993 · 31-35, M

@DarkSideoftheMoon There ye go. :)

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@AndrewC1993 hallelujah

polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

If you DO help her, she will trust you much more and become more like a friend than a landlord...

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@polyandrym66 she does ask a lot of favors from me. I feel like her kids should be helping her but they are busy living their own lives i guess

polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

@DarkSideoftheMoon She has probably worn out her welcome with her kids...
So you go down to have coffee with her in the mornings? Simple things that can open honest conversations.. I am a nudist and THAT also helps to put people visiting at ease.. Are you a home nudist? That could help befriend her...

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@polyandrym66 im not. I dont think she would be able to understand if i came knocking at her door naked. But i do have coffee with her sometimes

Bushmanoz · 61-69, M

Only you can decide. I personally think if you can make someones life a little easier then you should do it, but that doesn't mean you have to. Will you regret not going if it goes poorly at court?

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@Bushmanoz i think she needs a lawyer. I hate court. It gives me anxiety

Bushmanoz · 61-69, M

@DarkSideoftheMoon Not many people enjoy court, helping is one thing but not if it gives you anxiety, just give her the lawyer advice, thats still helping

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@Bushmanoz ok. Thank u

KneAuxBody

Maybe perhaps you have a few very large male friends (or know an ex-convict with nasty looks) who can come by and "Politely" suggest that this young asshat "be very very quiet!" or "move before some of his bones or stuff breaks somehow!"

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@KneAuxBody idk anyone lol

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