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Is it possible to start over at 30? (Read the "essay" before voting)

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Dash the dreams, it is what it is
Take a leap of faith
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Now, I have heard a lot of “it’s never too late”s, but isn't that a privilege in itself?

Those are some vague questions. So, lets see some context.. I am going to be 30 next year, have lived in a 15 kms radius all my life, single, spend most of my time doing corporate slavery, and am an avid reader. Give me anything magic and I am hooked. Never grew out of the Harry Potter phase I guess. None of that sounds particularly sad or in need of reinventing does it?

There is more.. I am from a third world country, aka developing country. We spend our childhoods in financially challenged homes and it's drilled into us that it's of utmost importance to get educated and get a job. Land on your feet so you can take responsibility for the said home. So my aim from middle school was to get good grades, good college and get a well paid, stable job. I never actually thought what it is that I want? Even now, I am not sure. I do have a job, but, a well paid job has to be put in a lot of effort even after you get one. Keep on updating yourself, in a world where the technology is evolving way faster than your brain’s ability to keep up. So that’s something I need to work on, obviously.

Now to what I want? I want to see, experience all the worlds that I read about, the history, the culture, to study in classrooms of old beautiful universities, to live on my own, meet new people. Virtual lives are not fun, and the pandemic has put that into perspective for me. In fact all the smothered dreams returned with a vengeance during the lock-down. The easiest way to go about achieving everything aforementioned is to go to a school abroad. And, that’s neither affordable nor “advisable”.

So what should I do? Kill ‘em dreams and make peace with reality and live the cards life dealt me with? Or take an exorbitant leap of faith?
Tminus6453 · M
I feel like my life didnt even start until i hit 30
Abstraction · 61-69, M
Today people often have 2-3 major careers that have no connection with each other. It's absolutely do-able.

So my aim from middle school was to get good grades, good college and get a well paid, stable job. I never actually thought what it is that I want?
Sounds very familiar with many of my Asian friends, colleagues and family in particular.

Life is an adventure. Whether you choose the new path or stay on the one you're on, make a decision. Consciously. One way or the other. Then be happy with your decision and do away with regrets.
Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
@Abstraction Yep, Asian things. Like I said, change a career here is a herculean task..

Making decision is hard, but handling consequences are harder. Its vicious cycle.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Much easier than waiting for 40 and wasting another ten years ...
Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
@ozgirl512 Amen!
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
@Bbgv14 exactly.. If you're going to do it, best do it early and saved time..
SageWanderer · 70-79, M
I did it in my 30's. Got divorced and started a whole new career path. The only thing holding you back is your fear.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
leap of fate, what have you got to lose? if reaching for your dreams doesnt work, mediocrity will always be available and at least you will have tried but perseverance pays off usually.
Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
@reflectingmonkey A lot of money that I dont have. So I'd be in a debt.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@Bbgv14 maybe you need what we call in my parts (french canadian) "une vache a lait" ( a milk cow ?), to us it means a project which is not your main dream but produces money for the main dream, ideally a passive income type thing which doesnt require long hours and makes money that you keep only for your project. either that or radically reducing you expenses for a specific amount of time. I do that for travelling. I'll literally eat lentils every day, buy clothing in used clothes stores, have a roommate, not go out and keep a maximum amount of money for my trip. last year I spent a total of almost 5 months in south america after saving every penny I can for an equivalent amount of time. you can borrow also, but only for a specific purpose.
jackson55 · M
You're young enough to change careers a couple times.
Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
@jackson55 Not where I live, trust me :)
jackson55 · M
@Bbgv14 Where do you live?
Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
South Asia..
If you can dream it, you can achieve it.

Aim high... if you miss, at least you'll be among the stars.
SW-User
Yes. I've known people who changed their lives in their 50s. 30 is perfect.
Leap of faith. I've done it several times. Last time I was 32.
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monte3 · 70-79, M
Plan something that really excites you. Where do you most want to go? If you don’t have people depending on you changes can be a lot easier.
DallasCowboysFan · 61-69, M
@Bbgv14 Well, sometimes you have to put yourself first and look out for number one. In order to achieve anything you have to conceive of the idea and believe in it first.

Go for your dreams, even if you don't get what you want , you'll have more than you had before. And listen to motivational speakers, they can be useful.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIoO9zzHjjw&t=910s
monte3 · 70-79, M
@Bbgv14 Edinburgh is great! All of Scotland is, go to Skye also.
Personal needs v responsibility is a tough call.
Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
@monte3 Exactly!
Oh yes! Isle of Skye is on my list, I love places with history and castles. Lets hope I find my way there soon, to visit if nothing else.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
Do you believe in yourself?
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@Bbgv14 Yeah, our own self-imposed limitations are often the first and hardest roadblock. Do you have a plan to overcome it?
Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
@MarkPaul Yep, step 1. It has to be. Else I'd be here a decade later too..
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@Bbgv14 Exactly. Be brave. See you at the finish line.
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Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
@Stereoguy If I fail, I would be in a huge debt. That'd take me my whole life to get out of.
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