I'll Keep Your Secret

I can't even begin to put words together to respond to this. But I can certainly feel your pain and your hurt. I don't know your real age. I know it's not 100, but I can see myself one day falling for something just as you did. Or rather someone.

Older men and women both can be vulnerable to younger people taking advantage of an unfortunate situation known as aging. We all want to feel young and enjoy life. It's plenty hard enough for older people to find happiness without this kind of intentional hurt and disregard for other people's feelings.

Even though what she said was true in her mind, saying those words out loud is what hurt the most. You're not socially irrelevant. She's socially irresponsible and totally inconsiderate.

I was referring to your paying your half, but not hers. It's safe to look again. You'll know the good, mostly by the eyes, I've noticed. One can tell their intent from them. Someone once said the eyes are the window of the soul. I tend to agree. When people treat you terribly, it is no reflection on you, but says everything about them. I know I'd sure be honored to have a friend like you, and you'd never have to buy me a thing. I value my friendships, and I've been looking for someone around my age to be friends with. Don't let her bother you anymore. You're just fortunate that she showed her true colors and you're not stuck with this toxic person, another minute. I'm sure there are lots of good ladies out there who would treasure your friendship. Think about those. I have an old saying I made up, that has helped me in life.

"Never let yesterday, steal joy from today." It works!

Ah, Cherny. The more I get to know you, the better I like you. You're great.

I am so sorry that happened to you. Please don't be gone long. She obviously isn't worth the dirt you wipe o ff your shoes after going for a walk in a dog park.

Mark Paul. Of course it's a case of hurt feelings. Hurt is hurt. It can make you sick to know that someone you considered a friend, sees you as nothing but a way to kill time and eat free. It's hurtful. And to find out that way is downright cruel.

Shes lucky he paid the bill. Most would have just walked away. I would.

You didn't deserve that. Hugs
Hope you see her for what she really is, someone who's not worth your time and feelings. Take care and good luck :)

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you.😞

But I agree that it's better that you found out now rather than later.

And I definitely agree with Grace2016 that what that girl said, and did, says a great deal about her but says nothing about you. I'm afraid I don't know you, but from what I've seen of the comments on here, I'm sure you must be a very good person, and not at all socially irrelevant.

So I can understand needing to take a break for a while, but I hope you don't give up altogether. You deserve better, and one day I believe you will do better.🙂

You're a kind person and deserve better than that ! I hope you find it !

Island, obviously alot of people here care...you should not cut them out.
Just a thought.
Keep your head up.

Sometimes people say things they don't mean to people when they are being teased.. I know one time I had a crush on this kid at the playground and my bro teased me about it and I pretended I didn't care and that I didn't even know the dude's name (I did know his name) but I have since forgot it (the name) but I remember the kid to this day.. He was 7 (as was I at the time)

She may or may not have meant what she said.. *sigh*

Dear Island, there is nothing I can say that hasn't already been said, so I will say sorry for the hurt this has caused your heart. It is a cruelty for sure, but please take comfort and solace from the truth of your dear friends here, and may their kindness and love for you help heal your heart.

Islandalone, you're welcome. Glad to give you my words in support of what happened to you.

I've read all the replies to you on this thread, and I hope you are taking comfort by all the wonderful things people said. It's obvious that you are well liked and appreciated here.

I love this. How can she in any way measure up to THIS?? That same nature that may have made you vulnerable to someone unworthy also draws good people to you who see it for what it is - a lovely thing. It's ok to take time when things hurt - just don't forget this side of the coin. ☀️🌻

I'm definitely not tired of you or your posts ❤️

🤗😗 feel better soon island. I never thought you irrelevant.

Aww :(
That is crap.
Makes me actually angry.
:(

RealMustangGuy it's because of people like you sites like this are the good places they are.

I cannot say it better than Grace... you really do matter island...to many people

I know that feeling. Sorry you're going through that. Please don't give up and disappear permanently. You are not alone.

@RealMustangGuy you're right: emotionally we become a bit more susceptible with age and although I have to accept responsibility for the events leading up to this I'm still hurt and hurting by what she said.
I realize it's all part of the human experience. It doesn't lessen the sting.
Thank you for your words. I truly appreciate them.

:/ sorry to hear that.

That was so mean of her, you're a lovely, kind, and funny gentleman and worth a lot more respect than she was showing you..don't let anyone treat you that way sweetie know your own worth..hugs..we miss you here, don't isolate yourself..

Aw. Stay. Youre cool :)

Carissimi, your kindness never ceases to amaze me. You have a heart as big as the sky, and I'm a better person for knowing you.

What the fuck? Some people disgust me.

I'm sorry, island. No one's tired of your posts, this is what this place is for. But if you feel that you need a break, then so be it, take the time you need.

Be well 🤗

She does not define your value. How sad is that, that she had to take advantage of you in order to eat. If she spent more time working than mooching, she'd be a much nicer person.

Man..wtf
It's not you
She's a bitch
We've all had one
Don't give up

Thank you for your kindness, island. Your words uplift me. 🙏

RealMustangGuy: And I might add, rude and immature. Good post!

@Grace2016: thank you for your supportive words.
I gave a thought to walking out and leaving the check for her but I simply couldn't do it. I've been working like a man possessed and avoiding social eye contact with women because I feel rather irrelevant. I'll get over it but I'm not worried as to when that'll happen.
Again thank you.

I'm really sorry this happened to you, by the way. I hope you never see, nor talk to her again.

She didn't deserve you.

😢 I hope you feel better soon :/

JPAL, I disagree. Not most people. A lot, maybe; and the ones you hear the most about, certainly; but people dont post a lot about the ones who are just nice people.

It's like the kids who go to school and shoot the place up. You don't read about the other 3,997 kids who just go there to get an education and be with friends.

Really?!?

@MrsG you're right: people do say things that they sometimes don't mean. However if you had heard her I think you would have gotten the same message I did.
Ah well - such is life right?

And, I'm telling you it was mutual. Someone was trying to tear me down on here, and I needed kindness myself. Your words helped me too. Thank you.

TeresaRudolph71, I'm very humbled by your response and I thank you for taking time to post your thoughtful and kind words.

What a lousy thing to do to someone! You shouldn't have even paid for her lunch.

Thank you @MrsG. You are always so nice and kind to me and I appreciate it.

I'm going to miss you, but I understand that a blow like that requires time to recover. She's not worth your time and effort!

@pinkstarburst you're very sweet to say that, and I'm deeply touched by your kind words.

Not to minimize it, but are you sure this isn't just a case of hurt feelings?

Thank you @Cari but your words make me feel good.

people will take advantage of a lonely heart. online is a landmine.

Unfortunately they can and do.

I've known people like that myself. 🙂

I'm very sorry to hear this too Island. Most people have no morals or values today.

Yeah.. Ah well :(

islandalone You're welcome. :) I hope that that helped, if only a little.