I Hate People Who Deny Domestic Violence Against Men Exists

I've been on both sides of the coin. Neither is good. As a woman victim I was helped. As a woman perpetrator I wasn't even arrested. I felt it was very unfair.

I was mortified by my own behaviour and sort domestic abuse counselling. My first attempt was not so great because I went to a group where they thought it was ok for me to hit him as long as he wasn't hitting me!?! Then I found a programme that taught the dynamics of abuse which I found infinitely helpful and have avoided being victim or perpetrator since then.

I've known quite a few men who have been victims. One guy I knew was stabbed in the back by his wife. He said at the hospital he'd been in a fight with a man. Meanwhile she reported him for ripping her coat that was hanging on a peg not on her which he'd grabbed as he stumbled out the door from her stabbing him. He was arrested for criminal damage and she was put in a woman's refuge with their 5 children. I told him and told him to tell the truth but she was promising him she'd come home so he didn't tell anyone. He was really embarrassed and ashamed, made me promise not to tell anyone. That's why male abuse is hidden. It needs to come out and have the embarrassment lifted from it how they did with women.

I believe in any case of domestic abuse both parties need to be sent on the course I attended about the dynamics of abuse or something similar.

Another double standard in society

The organizations dedicated to abuse, and used to have women as part of their name, are changing their name to gender neutral. 37 States have already done a legal sweep, and changed women to gender neutral.

I don't know if any reasonable person denies that abuse is gender neutral.

I'm not condoning this at all but men (as society perceives) should be seen to be strong and reporting domestic violence against them by a female would be seen as a weakness. This is probably why it isnt reported on or reported to the authorities as much.

I have always said perceptions should never exist at the end of the day domestic abuse is still abuse regardless of gender of the victim.

I hope both cases you attended make full physical and mental recoveries.

It does exist, it's just that it is not as common as the reverse. As it happens, a guy I once knew in the 80s was violently killed by his insane girlfriend in 1992. After hearing about that from the victim's brother, how can I deny it happens?

That's more common than society likes to admit.

Lady, You should meet my family!

I get annoyed when I’ve heard a woman here opine that if she hits a man, he shouldn’t hit her back “because he’s stronger”.I say here because I’ve only seen that opinion online, I don’t know anybody that stupid in rl. That’s why you don’t hit anyone. But imo, a woman who hauls off and hits a man just because she’s angry, and not trying to defend herself, someone else or to get out of his grasp, shouldn’t be surprised if she gets hit back.
As far as the police not taking it seriously, unless you have an all female police force, that’s other men not doing their jobs for sexist reasons.

I've never met a denier of domestic violence towards either sex... Is the argument that women aren't strong enough to hit men? Because that's just straight up sexism.

Women are brutes:(