How were your family members... while growing up? How did it impact.... you?
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curiosi · 61-69, F
My mother just died, I called extended family and they all said the same thing "Good she is dead she was NASTY!" They treated her like royalty while she was alive. Never a thought about how much I had to suffer being a prisoner to that monster. It taught me that people only care for their ugly selves.
BlueVeins · 22-25
I always felt kind of distant from them. My parents gave me a lot in life, way more than I'll ever deserve, but they never really understood me or accepted that my own way of thinking and my own beliefs are valid. I always felt like I was walking on eggshells to pretend to be a normal kid but I know at the end of the day, they just cared about me and were trying to raise a good son.
As for my siblings, they started out bad but got better. My brother was always pretty aggressive; I just wanted things to be peaceful and they never were. My mom tried to stop him but he was at it all the time; she had shit to do and pulling him off of me every 20 seconds wouldn't have fit in her schedule. He would insult me in front of his friends a lot and that made them feel like they could do whatever they wanted to me, which I didn't like. My sister liked to kinda make jabs at me and try to make me look and feel like a shitty person, and maybe she just genuinely thought I was one and was acting in good faith.
But over time, my mom started cracking down on my sister and my brother perhaps realized that he shouldn't be tormenting his adult brother. So they got better and now we're all on friendly terms, like we should be.
As for my siblings, they started out bad but got better. My brother was always pretty aggressive; I just wanted things to be peaceful and they never were. My mom tried to stop him but he was at it all the time; she had shit to do and pulling him off of me every 20 seconds wouldn't have fit in her schedule. He would insult me in front of his friends a lot and that made them feel like they could do whatever they wanted to me, which I didn't like. My sister liked to kinda make jabs at me and try to make me look and feel like a shitty person, and maybe she just genuinely thought I was one and was acting in good faith.
But over time, my mom started cracking down on my sister and my brother perhaps realized that he shouldn't be tormenting his adult brother. So they got better and now we're all on friendly terms, like we should be.
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
SW-User
My brother and sister are both over a decade older and lived with their dad so I barely saw them. My mom had a severe mental health crisis for about 20 years starting when I was 8 so I basically had to take care of her from that point on. My dad was a good guy but emotionally distant on top of never being around due to work. And my extended family members were either causing drama or may as well have not existed.
As for how it impacted me... one can guess.
As for how it impacted me... one can guess.
SarahAndSamantha · 46-50, F
SW-User
Lived in a joint family before. Constant arguments, dirty house politics, bitter asswipes. Unavailability of a parent for some time. Got harassed and assaulted by family members. Some good was there but for the most part, fucked up.
I desperately wanted everyone to be at peace earlier but stopped bothering later. Some of them died, their deaths didn't bother me.
Can't go in further details.
I desperately wanted everyone to be at peace earlier but stopped bothering later. Some of them died, their deaths didn't bother me.
Can't go in further details.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
My parents split the summer I was 11.
My Father was a distant figure in and out of my life from then on.
Much of my time was then spent trying to protect my younger brother from a lot of negativity from my Mother and her relatives.
And then later my two half-Sisters the same.
I started part-time work at 14.
Left home at 16 and never went back until I got a message that if nobody was able to take care of my Mother after an operation it was unlikely she’d be able to return home
So it fell to me to be the carer.
I still talk to my siblings but it’s not as though we’re close.
We drift in and out of each other’s lives.
Dad remarried and she had three youngsters of her own. My Mother remarried twice and never seemed happy until husband #3.
So I guess life was always about looking after somebody or other
My Father was a distant figure in and out of my life from then on.
Much of my time was then spent trying to protect my younger brother from a lot of negativity from my Mother and her relatives.
And then later my two half-Sisters the same.
I started part-time work at 14.
Left home at 16 and never went back until I got a message that if nobody was able to take care of my Mother after an operation it was unlikely she’d be able to return home
So it fell to me to be the carer.
I still talk to my siblings but it’s not as though we’re close.
We drift in and out of each other’s lives.
Dad remarried and she had three youngsters of her own. My Mother remarried twice and never seemed happy until husband #3.
So I guess life was always about looking after somebody or other
Lynn1976 · 46-50, F
I had great family members. My siblings and I are all still close and loyal to each other to this day. Many of those values that made us who we are today I have brought into my own family now with my kids and husband.
Don't get me wrong, we were not the Brady Bunch; we did have our ups and downs; family trials; and we were a daring bunch of kids.
Don't get me wrong, we were not the Brady Bunch; we did have our ups and downs; family trials; and we were a daring bunch of kids.
AwesomeMe · 22-25, F
@SW-User I was talking about hate comments between users on here. You can share your experience :)
