how do you flirt with a man??? after being so hurt many many times.

its really hard to do that after being heart broken by someone you really loved deeply. this guy is nice and gentle. i can see it in his eyes. but.... we work together... so i really dont know what to do otherwise i would've been more blunt by now.

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I could have written this myself, once you've opened yourself up and been hurt , it's extremely hard to allow yourself to be vulnerable again with anyone. For me flirting has always been a little difficult, but once I begin to realize that I might be falling for someone, I completely shut down. I wish I knew a way around it.

Bohemianbrassstrings · F

@NewBeginnings77: ugh i'm dealing with this. i close up around him. he's so sweet. i dont wana hurt him or worse be into it and then freak out and run ... far far away out of fear.

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@Bohemianbrassstrings: I'm pretty good at the running part, that or I just end up pushing them away...

GlamGirl · F

Genuinely smile at him, make good eye contact, relax, make him laugh, be yourself. After that, a slight touch on the arm, or some other subtle contact, will start to get your message across. Take it slow. No need to rush after you've been hurt. Just have fun and enjoy the process of getting to know each other.✨

OzDiver · 61-69, M

Just be yourself. Smile. Make eye contact. Listen. Be available.
But keep something back. Let him discover you too.
Most importantly, protect YOUR feelings, and move at YOUR pace. After what you've been through previously, make sure that all the conditions are right for you before you open up to this guy. Good luck!

BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F

A better question is why would you [i]want[/i] to flirt with a man? Or a woman, for that matter. It's degrading, makes you look like a dimwit, and nothing good ever comes of it except a long headache.

Bohemianbrassstrings · F

@BlueMetalChick: you've apparently been hurt way more than me. i'm sorry.

BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F

@Bohemianbrassstrings: Unlike you, I haven't been hurt at all. That's why I'm not stupid. I've never once been rejected, shut down, or hurt by that.

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

I don't...I flirt with girls 😊

Bohemianbrassstrings · F

@IcePrincess: then there's no advice that you can give to help me here but thanks though.

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@Bohemianbrassstrings: Compliment him...like his eyes and stuff...tho it's girl oriented lol

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