If you have to "try" to maintain a relationship, is it worth keeping?

SW-User

It absolutely is not. I’m not gonna give you some hock about sanctity or love or trust or whatever, I’m just gonna give you the facts:

If you are the only one working to maintain the relationship, then the relationship [i]will[/i] fail. You have to be 100% perfect in keeping it together - is anyone 100% perfect at anything?

I’ve been in the boat before and thought I could last. Hell, I did for 5 years. Then the inevitable came to collect what was due.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

Every relationship requires effort. Unless you just wanna let yourself go and you can both be miserable together.

Johnblackthorn · 56-60, M

Yes, relationships unlike gravity need looking after otherwise they endup like gravity and only go down hill.

SW-User

depends on you

DamnFeelz · 36-40, F

Depends on the return and how mutual it is . Every long term relationship requires effort, sometimes more so than others.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

It would of course depend on the situation and circumstances, but I would say if a couple is constantly having to "work" to maintain it, then it may be time to consider moving on.

SW-User

I mean, we all have to try to maintain any kind of relationship. It's when you're the only one that's doing anything at all that it's a problem.

SW-User

It depends on how good it is. All relationships involve some work. That's not necessarily a bad sign. Just make sure the amount of work is worth the result.

blendednotshaken · 51-55, M

Every relationship requires work, and when long term, perhaps even more.

GohantheThird · M

Depends if you're both trying or not. Effort is a two way street. Just remind the other person that you're not going anywhere.

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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

I’ve seen people have rough patches in their relationships and grow through them stronger together. I’ve also seen dysfunctional relationships justify their toxic behavior as a tough patch. I suppose it depends on the specific people and problems.