I Love My Boyfriend just to make things clear, I’m asking for advice on what to say to him,...

Fernie · F

He IS immature...if he chooses his games over you...that is a HUGE red flag...is that how you want it? To come second to his toy? You deserve better. Please don't settle for this...or marry him.

SW-User

I can relate to your problem. I was married and in my 30's when my wife would want to do things on her own sometimes so i'd go and play a video game. I never really thought about it at the time but i think it was putting some distance between us even though she wanted to do some things on her own.

Video games can be fun but i think guys in particular need to learn how and when to play them in a relationship and most importantly see how they can be affecting their relationship and partner. It's a bit like the guy wanting to watch sport with his friends when his gf wants some time together but at least with that she can see what he's doing. With video games the player are in their little solitary world, and the other person can feel left out.

justanothername · 51-55, M

The best partner or gf a gamer can have is one who is as into gaming as he or she is. Gaming is very addictive and all consuming. If you are not as into gaming as your boyfriend and don’t get the same level of satisfaction then I would suggest moving on and finding someone who has other interests that are closer to your interests. You are both young and have time on your side to find the right person.

SW-User

I would tend to say that if he's with you he can stay off the Xbox. When he's on his own he can play all he likes. That would seem fair to me, otherwise what's the point in you even being there? You're right, you might as well go home. If he really can't be away from his gaming long enough to hang out with you then yes, this relationship is going nowhere fast.

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ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M

X-boxes, just like home computers before them and TV's before them can and often do create a wedge between couples that eventually drives them apart. I'm not saying that's going to happen to you but if it did you wouldn't be the first.

Of course you know or at least sense that threat, and all I can think of in the way of advice would be for you to have a long hard think before hand and present him with a well prepared list of all the things you worry might happen and how much you want to avoid drifting apart.

And if he still wants to play x-box in your presence and without your involvement then maybe you ought to be seriously considering whether he's really the one for you. Good luck.

DarlingSelah ·

You're competing with an inanimate object for a guy whos name you'll search your mind to recall in 5yrs. Thats all. Do what you want with that info.

whateverhappens · 26-30, F

Idk how some girls complain about gamer guys ,better he's doing that than out there cheating , unless they turn into a bum and not working and gaming all day ,that's an issue,but this what y'all going through is okay, could probably set dates to do things the night before so the next day he knows no games but hang out time

easterniowegin · 51-55, M

Does he have a job or fulltime school? Does he seem responsible otherwise or is he like many other immature 20somethings?? I'm forcing my teenage boys to get away from games, exactly for this reason. Imo, he needs something fun outside of the gaming world.

SW-User

Deleting sound advice huh? If what you want is people to tell you he’s wrong and you’re the victim of neglect than you should have said so in the first place 🙄🙄. You’re as immature as you claim him to be.

DrScissorhands

I’m not sure whether your repeating you do love him was to convince us or convince yourself.

SW-User

Ugh mine will game for like hoursssssss and that shit gets annoying

Like I want attention!!!!

Katiatavrovich · 31-35, F

It's really difficult situation😕 I will think about that

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