Did you throw a birthday party for your 1 year old ? So.. our baby is turning 1. In laws months...

abe182 · 46-50, M

That's actually the best birthday! Lay down plastic and put the cake on it and let them go to town! People want to be a part of that.

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

Thanks guys I’m so glad I asked. Thanks y’all! My perspective has been totally changed. We’ve decided to do breakfast at a restaurant.

LadyGrace

I think it would be lovely to have a birthday party and include the rest of the family. After all, that’s their baby, too, and why deny them this happiness? Baby’s first birthday is so special, because of the very fact that this will BE the baby’s first birthday. When the baby gets in the teens, he/she will definitely want to look back and see exactly what she/he looked like at only one year old. They will also be thrilled that it obviously was important and special enough, that the parents celebrated it. It’s not just about one person’s desire. This involves so many others...as family. If it feels too stressful for you, celebrate it in your way, quietly at home, but compromise and also allow the rest of the family to celebrate it at grandma’s house. That way, everyone is happy. This is one event that shall never be relived, so that also makes it very special.

JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M

My oldest ended up having 3 cakes for his first birthday, but no actual parties.

We made him a cake at home... which we allowed him to demolish . (he ate very little of it)

Both sets of grandparents did the same when we visited.

I do think that celebrating the first year is warranted, but it should be in the context of the child, in my opinion.

Bear in mind that in some cultures, the first birthday is more important than 13, 16, 18 and 21. First birthday and the 50th birthday are about equivalent.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

We had a party for our twins when they turned one. There really is nothing wrong with letting your in laws have the party. After all they want it and you have a toddler to care for now.

Stillsittinghere · 51-55, M

We had parties for both of our boys for every birthday. Their earliest ones were obviously more for the parents than the baby. But it’s a great way to create memories for the scrapbook that you’ll look back on and get all choked up over. It’s good for the baby when he/she is older and can look back at how special he/she was treated. It’s a great opportunity to socialize with other parents that have similar aged children and build friendships that may prove to be lasting. All these make it sound like you are using the baby for your own benefit but it won’t feel that cheesy once it is occurring. You will feel nothing negative during the party and will walk away with great pics and great memories!

naughtiesfriend · 46-50, M

We did. It was just close family and friends.

If they want one, then have them pay for it. Lol. But you probably won't be able to have any input on the party. Like time, especially with naps.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

We did for family members, no other kids. We actually met for brunch at a restaurant since brunch was her favorite and it was at a good between naps happy toddler time.

Fallflower · 46-50, F

I didn’t.. probably too overwhelmed with motherhood during those years to even think of it, and we lived far away from family anyway. I wouldn’t have minded if a grandparent threw a party. I see how it can feel like you’re being judged as a humbug for not doing it yourself but only if you have a bad attitude about it.

Shayla · F

I did one for my oldest. We had it at a restaurant I chose. I decorated with pink and green. It was a family event.
By the time my second turned one I had left their father and really didn't have enough family to plan anything beyond cake at home for.

Salix75 · 46-50, F

we didn't have a party per se. My parents and brother came over to our place and we shared cake. I don't see any sense in going all out for a 1 year old who won't remember a thing about it

SW-User

What’s the point In that ? Just a waste of time and money since they are far too young to understand

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

Oh yes I had a party for both of my son's. Also planning one for the twins this December.

Underconstruction · F

Yes, I did celebrate my daughter's first bday with a party.

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

Why is it odd to have a birthday party for a 1 year old?

I did a bigger one for my son than my daughter but...it is a celebration. They are 1!!!