Did you throw a birthday party for your 1 year old ?

So.. our baby is turning 1. In laws months ago asked about her having a birthday party. I was like huh? The even picked out a date and everything, a couple days after her real birthday. Really odd I think. My husband just recently asked me about it again since we are a few weeks away, saying hey my parents have bought gifts and what not. We need to plan this party. In my mind all I wanted was to just have the 2 of us, a cake and take a couple pictures. But no, he and my in laws are expecting an actually party with all 15 of their aunts cousins, siblings etc to come. This morning husband and I got in a fight about it. His parents say if I don’t throw one they will, but then that makes me look bad. What do I do? Did any of you have a birthday party for a one year old?

Do I looks humbug to his family because I don’t want to have a party? She won’t even remember it. Do I just suck it up an plan it ?