Did you throw a birthday party for your 1 year old ?

So.. our baby is turning 1. In laws months ago asked about her having a birthday party. I was like huh? The even picked out a date and everything, a couple days after her real birthday. Really odd I think. My husband just recently asked me about it again since we are a few weeks away, saying hey my parents have bought gifts and what not. We need to plan this party. In my mind all I wanted was to just have the 2 of us, a cake and take a couple pictures. But no, he and my in laws are expecting an actually party with all 15 of their aunts cousins, siblings etc to come. This morning husband and I got in a fight about it. His parents say if I don’t throw one they will, but then that makes me look bad. What do I do? Did any of you have a birthday party for a one year old?

Do I looks humbug to his family because I don’t want to have a party? She won’t even remember it. Do I just suck it up an plan it ?

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LadyGrace ·

I think it would be lovely to have a birthday party and include the rest of the family. After all, that’s their baby, too, and why deny them this happiness? Baby’s first birthday is so special, because of the very fact that this will BE the baby’s first birthday. When the baby gets in the teens, he/she will definitely want to look back and see exactly what she/he looked like at only one year old. They will also be thrilled that it obviously was important and special enough, that the parents celebrated it. It’s not just about one person’s desire. This involves so many others...as family. If it feels too stressful for you, celebrate it in your way, quietly at home, but compromise and also allow the rest of the family to celebrate it at grandma’s house. That way, everyone is happy. This is one event that shall never be relived, so that also makes it very special.