staying friends with a female who rejected me, but begged me to stay friends with her twice after leading me on by saying I'm the perfect guy...

@Jester work on yourself please and do not be manipulated with soft words..

@Jester Im glad you asked the question and got a lot of input here. Sometimes it's hard to see a situation for what it is when you are so deep in it. Good luck. 💙

@SeaBreeze I'm extremely glad as well that all of these awesome people were willing to take some time out of their day to share their opinion or at the least hear me out. I greatly appreciate it and couldn't agree more haha Thank you!

@EllaDisenchanted I have a feeling this is the case as well, but now that I'm starting to get my life back together I can say I know my worth again and that being an "option" for someone is beneath me when I'm constantly giving them my heart and soul to make them happy. Thank you for your input ^-^

@Jester Fighting spirit, that'll keep you above water there. Yep. No need to stoop to her games.

@EllaDisenchanted Thank you so much for your time. Reading that made me feel a lot better about myself since I felt like I was in the wrong for wanting to walk away :)

@YouCanCallMeDan lmfao xD I like your attitude brother haha

@Happymedium I agree that I need to put some distance between us. One of the many things that hurts the most is that I constantly heard about her past through the rumor mill of her behaving like this but didn't want to judge since I felt that was unfair to her. Another thing that bothers me is that it also cost me a friendship when another female friend who had a crush on me. She half-heartedly warned me that the girl I liked was known for doing this partially to sabotage any chance of a relationship developing but also to protect my idiotic ass from getting into this situation. LOL I hope we evolve to have telepathic powers in some manner before I die. I would love to see the thoughts behind her actions

@Jester
You seem....smart, kind and fair.

But you deserve better
And I hope one day.....you get it and ALL this will become clear to you.

Good luck🤗

You seem pretty damn awesome yourself! Thank you so much for the kind words and taking the time to reply. Have a wonderful night 🤗

@SW-User As much as I appreciate the compliment, it complicates things since I always had a crush on her, but didn't act on it out of respect for her relationship. Three months after her ex-dumped her she asked me out on a date which went extremely well until the romantic gestures started to remind her of her ex (she ended up telling me this later on after we became friends). Not to mention the poor dear ended up asking me, "how long does it take to move on from a long-term relationship because she really wanted to" about an hour into our date. 2/3 into the date (was about 5 hours long) after sharing a lot of laughs and having fun she turned cold and wanted to go home. I called her a couple of days later to apologize if I came on too strong and to tell her I wanted to be there for her (I would never leave anyone to suffer alone because I know how horrible it is) even if it was only as a friend (this still makes me feel terrible to this day, because in hindsight I feel like I deceived her by telling her this). Honestly, I think we both wanted everything to work, but trying to be "just" her friend when she's constantly praising me and I have a crush on her was brutal and eventually lead to me trying to push for more while trying to balance being sensitive to her getting over her ex. We eventually became extremely close and my low self-esteem + other suitors who found her attractive and vice versa started to get the best of me. I wanted her to show me some sort of affection so I knew she was committed to me(I realized this was asking a lot since she was coming out of an on again off again 6-year relationship) to some extent and that I wasn't giving her all of my time in vein (far beyond what I would give to any of my other friends {time, travel, money, food, gym membership, being her personal trainer] even though I love all of them and have been there for them during difficult times) while she was just using me until she healed and could move on.

@SW-User Not my style amigo. I'm not sure if it's because I'm older now or that perhaps I always preferred sex in a relationship over the old wham, bam, thank you, ma'am haha but I'm looking for my equal in life who wants to embrace everything the world has to offer with me by trying new things, traveling, supporting each other emotionally, and just being an overall kickass team who wants to explore each other's sexual desires without bounds. For me, personally, sex without a relationship feels like a waste of time.

The "friendzone", if it does exist is brutal though xD

sent ya a pm @Sturmfrei if you're interested to talk about this topic in-depth so we can both vent and learn ^-^