staying friends with a female who rejected me, but begged me to stay friends with her twice after leading me on by saying I'm the perfect guy...

,she has always found me attractive, and she wants to find someone as good as me...To top it off, she's started to date other guys after saying she still only has feelings for her ex which was her reason that she didn't want to date or mess around. I'm happy she's healing, but the emotional cost to me has been unbearable for some time now and has lead to unhealthy coping habits. Not to mention I'm now training her at the gym and she constantly keeps in contact online and wants to hang out...but only when it's convenient for her. What would you do in this situation?

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Happymedium · 51-55, F

Ugh.....you need to put just a little distance there.
There are givers
And there are takers.

🤔She's seems like a professional

Jester · 31-35, M

@Happymedium I agree that I need to put some distance between us. One of the many things that hurts the most is that I constantly heard about her past through the rumor mill of her behaving like this but didn't want to judge since I felt that was unfair to her. Another thing that bothers me is that it also cost me a friendship when another female friend who had a crush on me. She half-heartedly warned me that the girl I liked was known for doing this partially to sabotage any chance of a relationship developing but also to protect my idiotic ass from getting into this situation. LOL I hope we evolve to have telepathic powers in some manner before I die. I would love to see the thoughts behind her actions

Happymedium · 51-55, F

@Jester
You seem....smart, kind and fair.

But you deserve better
And I hope one day.....you get it and ALL this will become clear to you.

Good luck🤗

Jester · 31-35, M

You seem pretty damn awesome yourself! Thank you so much for the kind words and taking the time to reply. Have a wonderful night 🤗