staying friends with a female who rejected me, but begged me to stay friends with her twice after leading me on by saying I'm the perfect guy...

,she has always found me attractive, and she wants to find someone as good as me...To top it off, she's started to date other guys after saying she still only has feelings for her ex which was her reason that she didn't want to date or mess around. I'm happy she's healing, but the emotional cost to me has been unbearable for some time now and has lead to unhealthy coping habits. Not to mention I'm now training her at the gym and she constantly keeps in contact online and wants to hang out...but only when it's convenient for her. What would you do in this situation?

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EllaDisenchanted · F

She doesn't want to be friends, she wants to be an anchor. Most likely she's keeping you in a holding pattern as a "just in case" option, something I've seen in some women's relationships. If I were you I'd keep it only professional as much as you can.

Jester · 31-35, M

@EllaDisenchanted I have a feeling this is the case as well, but now that I'm starting to get my life back together I can say I know my worth again and that being an "option" for someone is beneath me when I'm constantly giving them my heart and soul to make them happy. Thank you for your input ^-^

EllaDisenchanted · F

@Jester Fighting spirit, that'll keep you above water there. Yep. No need to stoop to her games.

Jester · 31-35, M

@EllaDisenchanted Thank you so much for your time. Reading that made me feel a lot better about myself since I felt like I was in the wrong for wanting to walk away :)