Why would a guy verbally insult just because you have boundaries and standards

I think sometimes people aren't aware of their actions so when they're confronted with it they go on the defensive.

Sounds like you have him figured out. There are plenty of good guys out there.

Yeah. This doesn't sound good. Was he threatening to leave or simply stating that if he didn't value you or want you, he would have left already? Threatening to leave seams he is likely narcissistic. But stating that if he didn't value you he [i]would have[/i] left, might be a poor communicator's way of saying that he didn't think he was being neglectful and that he does value and want you otherwise he would have left.

Don't get me wrong. Neither is acceptable. But the second one [i]could be[/i] an inept attempt to reassure you that he cares. If that is the case then explaining what he needs to correct will allow him the opportunity to adapt to your boundaries and needs. It is also a good opportunity for you to exchange information about your boundaries and standards.

Although, it could also be a trick a of a narcissist too to try and convince you that they shouldn't have to do anything else because them just being with you is enough and that is not at all true. I wouldn't want to be in your position.

For sure. I believe you. I lived it with my narc. Narcissists are shady arseholes whose true natures come out when they don't get what they want. If they cannot push boundaries they act up like 3 year olds

Why? Because you made a mistake. A correctable mistake , but a mistake nonetheless ... about judging his character . It’s time for him to go!

He found out he cannot control you is why.Time to toss him and his fat mouth into the trash and find a man worthy of you.

Consider this your red flag and be glad he’s so obvious.

The label "Narcissist" gets used awfully loosely these days.

Once two people start calling something a relationship, suddenly they both start acting like jack asses and of course the blame game starts.

Well ladies, that is what happens when you choose to date bad boys, jerks, or whatever the nice term for "asshole" is.

Thank you guys for your advice and listening. I will take heed. God bless

Cut off narcissists at all costs. They're not worth your energy.

He does, walk girl.