Why would a guy verbally insult just because you have boundaries and standards

@Ryannnnnn I was feeling neglected so I told him leave my life if he didn't value or want me. He called me a bitch and renounced our entire friendship and said he was never my friend from the beginning. I really love him.

@Ryannnnnn sick people like pathological narcissists know exactly what they are doing, they just don't want the victim to catch on to their game of manipulation. They get on the defensive when the target starts waking up and refuse to be their victim.

@Justcoolin You are better off without that dude. I'm so sorry.

@Justcoolin Sorry to hear that. Maybe he felt really hurt and suprised so he went full defence cut all ties etc. But you know him better than I do, i'm just considering the possibility as I know people are complicated. I just know it's easier in the moment to be reactive and push away the criticism than address the possibility you might be wrong or have some bad qualities.

Did you feel like he was telling the truth when he said those things?.

@DianaGyana Too many people use that term now, full blown narcissists aren't as common as that. Every tom dick and harry who watches a youtube video on narcissists thinks they know how to find and identify them with so little information and most of the time they're wrong.

Hurt people say and do stupid things, you can't just jump to that extreme conclusion so quickly. It's like saying "My friend was mean to me and pushed me down" and saying "he's a psychopath, psychopaths don't care about hurting people and have little emotion". Hurt people get on the defensive too, most people are just hurt and not thinking properly.

@Ryannnnnn lmfao you never experienced narcissistic abuse... lucky you, so it means you never got mindfucked by a narcissist and your life almost destroyed by one...if you cannot relate, then at least do not victim shame and blame.

@DianaGyana I think you're projecting a bit, if that's how you've read what I've wrote then you're definitely misreading it. I'm actually asking questions and trying to be helpful and nice.

Unless you're angry and defensive because of what I said about narcissists and you're taking it as a personal attack like you have to defend yourself or soemthing. Either way I didn't ask for this conversation with you, if you can't refrain from being personal and emotional then I'd ask you not to bother. I'm just trying to be nice to somebody.

@Ryannnnnn you are not nice, you are negating an abuse victim's experience to fit your own narrative. Go write your own post and see how many abuse survivors actually agree with your claptrap!

@DianaGyana Haha okay. Enjoy projecting and being in denial so you can feel self righteous about yourself.

@Ryannnnnn lmfao I have survived gaslighting, victim shaming and reverse psychology. You cannot teach me anything about supposed denial. Knowing you have been abused and calling a spade a spade is not selfish or self-righteous. It is empowering. Of course you don't know anything about it and I am talking to an idiot on the subject who is totally ignorant on the subject. Your opinion herein means fuck all!!

@Ryannnnnn While I agree with you that hurt people say and do stupid things, I'm going to have to disagree with you about narcissists being so few. I know the statistics say "between 0.5-1% of the population with between 50-75% being men" Those statistics are of "diagnosed" individuals. That means people who have actually been seen regularly by a psychiatric professional and diagnosed. Since there are only about 11.5 psychiatrists for every 100,000 people in the U.S. that means the majority of mental illness continues to go undiagnosed. Many narcissists use statistics like this to "prove" they aren't narcissists because "what are the odds". Actual numbers are believed to be much higher.

Regardless, this guy's actions were not acceptable and show that when confronted with her boundaries, he continued to disrespect them. Not something easily repaird.

@Ryannnnnn Sir, she is right and the rest of us are dead wrong about everything.

When i read her posts, I imagine some woman standing in her trailer door screaming and hollering. How much you wanna bet I am not wrong?

@CestManan Who are you talking about? @Ryannnnnn?


Because I'm hoping I haven't been offensive or too argumentative and caused that reaction. I deeply apologize if I have.

@CleverFunnyNameGoesHere I'd also speculate that many more people display narcissistic behaviours that aren't diagnosed at the level you'd need to be classed as a narcissist, but are still just a milder version. Yeah I agree with you, it's just so common now on the internet that the term gets thrown around quite incautiously so I'm always a little skeptical.

@CestManan Eh I think she was just a bit triggered in the literal sense so it is what it is. I blocked her because i'm not gonna lie it did annoy me lol.

@Ryannnnnn Oh absolutely. It is human nature to display some narcissistic traits. It's hardwired into our DNA to keep us alive. And a lot of people use the term incorrectly. And the information presented in the post is not enough to make any kind of genuine determination.

@CleverFunnyNameGoesHere I know it's because of Diana or whatever the hell her name is. She has a habit of accusing everyone of being everything bad. But no you now, you are cool.

@Ryannnnnn she is triggered over everything. Next thing you know she'll accuse me of running a gambling ring on this site because I have a habit of saying the phrase, how much do you want to bet.

@CestManan hahaha. People like that make me want to shit blood.