How can one be kind/ likeable to people but without being a pushover

Being kind doesn't mean you bend over backward for every whim someone has for you.
It means you look at something with consideration and care and possibly fairness.
You are not going to be liked by everyone, when you stand for yourself.

you learn discernment ,,you only help those that really need help ,,good stewards are not enablers ,,,if they can work they need to work ,or not eat
I learned the hard way
If people end up talking bad about you anyway ,even after you have done all you can do to help them
Why not just cut to the chase ,let them talk about you for saying no ,,,not for being a sucker
My kids say this is the best words of advice I ever gave them

We help people ,,but only those willing to help themselves

Good rule of thumb is ,,if they have family and they won't help them ,,more then likely there is a good reason

Its not easy young lady,at least you are aware ,sadly people mistake kindness for weakness, you say you dont want to be treated like a doormat,and dont want enemies,at this point i could probably take advantage of you,on your own confession.if you want change you have to make change. your a Softie i get it,so does everyone you know by the sound of it.there maybe some fallout if you make a stand, but are they the kind of friends you want to hang with,would it really be a loss, think of your peace of mind ,im sure you have more important things to worry about in your life. all it comes down too is you saying sorry i cant help you this time . take care tinker , you can do this 🤗

People don't like pushovers and doormats. People like individuals who have healthy boundaries and who respect themselves.

We teach people how to treat us by honoring our value system.

It doesn't matter if you have "enemies" it matters if you can look at yourself in the mirror.

Set some boundaries for yourself and you'll get more respect. 😉 If someone doesn't like that then they were never a friend to begin with. If someone is mean to you tell them you don't and won't tolerate bullies or mean people. 💕💙

It's simple: be kind but not at your own expense. It's ok to say "I'm sorry but I can't do that" or whatever you feel is appropriate when people ask unreasonable things of you. Being kind doesn't mean you have to be a YES man(girl). A true kind person is also kind to themselves.

be yourself/whatever you are. the people who are gonna like you will like you either way and they will be very few so you don't have to waste time with others

Idk but its hard to say because im a push over kinda lol