How can one be kind/ likeable to people but without being a pushover

Its not easy young lady,at least you are aware ,sadly people mistake kindness for weakness, you say you dont want to be treated like a doormat,and dont want enemies,at this point i could probably take advantage of you,on your own confession.if you want change you have to make change. your a Softie i get it,so does everyone you know by the sound of it.there maybe some fallout if you make a stand, but are they the kind of friends you want to hang with,would it really be a loss, think of your peace of mind ,im sure you have more important things to worry about in your life. all it comes down too is you saying sorry i cant help you this time . take care tinker , you can do this 🤗