I Am Feeling Heartbroken

That’s the thing, you are so amazing, so kind-hearted you fell for the lie most of us have fallen for. Human beings want puppets. Puppets who will sit, stand, eat, talk, and fuck when they say. Look around. Do you see people who actually care when someone ceases to be convenient?

Sweetheart all people are this way. Lesson learned hun, we all fall on our faces and are shit on until finally we dust ourselves off and fall for the lies no longer.

You are beautiful, strong, capable, giving, and wise. The love we’ve been looking for all our lives is the love that only we ourselves can give to ourselves. Everybody is so trapped by their desires, their ways they don’t give a rat’s ass about anyone who contradicts their desire. Now you know.... how people.... people.... are. This has NOTHING to do with you. You could look up the word human being in a dictionary and it would say, “Beings who always want more, are never satisfied, and label you with negative words at not fulfilling their random and meaningless requests.”

Never, I respect, never take peoples’ Response or regard towards you personally again, trust they are all the same. Now it is you time baby! Time to love yourself, time to say no to requests that don’t match with what YOU want.

There is a lady by the name of Byron Katie that helped me a lot in these struggles, she is an author, check her out on YouTube if you are curious. But remember you are precious, and it is people who try to demean us for not being fucking play-doh in their hands!

My mum basically told me the same thing.

I had some therapy.

Anyway regardless of that :

It's better to use yourself as your own yard stick. Measure yourself against yourself.

Secondly it sounds like you met a narcissist or a sociopath. Only difference between the two from the targets after effects is a narcissist didn't do it on purpose but a sociopath did. They systematicly destroy your life, make you reliant on them and then leave you.

This is your chance to rebuild yourself, find out what you like, what you want to do and make some friends - become self reliant, become your own best friend, master of your own self esteem.

Ok, I see a lot of red flags here. You made every choice based on what HE wanted. Where are YOU in all this? A guy wants to be with YOU not a female clone of himself.
What are your dreams, your ideas, your thoughts, your desires? That's what makes people interesting, is our differences. And if someone does not agree with some, so what? Doesnt mean they hate you now.
You need to understand that you are as intelligent, interesting and valid as anyone else out there. Do not ever change who you are to fit someone else's ideas. That NEVER works out well.

That's horrible to hear, sorry you had to lose so much before you broke up :(
I've been in a number of relationships in the past, not quite to that extent but each time I felt like "is she the one?".
As was commented below. there's more people in the world than you realise. So please don't be too disheartened, the right guy IS out there, he IS single, and he WILL find you eventually. :)

Don't be.. It's all just practise for the right one!

Sorry you hate your mom. 😔

I just read this, I'm so sorry. But don't be sad it's over, be glad it happened. Think about this: you found someone you were "good enough for" for a while, and it was someone you really liked. Now I'm turning 31 years old Monday, and do you know how many times that's happened to me before? Zero. I'm stuck wondering if it's even possible for me to love someone who loves me too, or if I'm just cursed, or if God doesn't want me to be happy, or if there's something mentally or emotionally wrong with me that makes it impossible. But you found someone before, so you should know it's possible that you'll find someone again.

This was not meant to be. There is something in the horizon for you and don't be heartbroken.

This aches my heart so much. I can't imagine the pain you have went through, pain you even have until now. I'm so sorry that your boyfriend was not the one for you, despite having to sacrifice everything for him. I wish you all the best.

Never change who you are for anyone. If a someone cant take your hopes and dreams into consideration, they dont deserve you. And moms arent always right.

Don't let no dude control your life like that.. there's a big red flag if he can't get along with anyone

I'm sure it was your fault. Don't make same mistake again, forget that guys exist

Trial and error

sorry that happen

It happens