I Am Feeling Heartbroken

My mother told me that any guy that would ever date me was going to leave. As much as I hate that woman with all of my being, she was right. We broke up today and I feel like I lost a part of myself.
Keep in mind, this is the guy I thought I was going to marry. We looked at engagement rings together. He promised me we would get married. I based my entire life around the idea that we’d stay together. I chose my career because it made the most sense for what he wanted. I was the one that had to move closer to him. I had to sacrifice so much for him. I lost friends, family, etc. because he didn’t like them. I had to quit my old job because he didn’t like my coworker.
I just wanted to be good enough for someone for once in my life. I will never be enough for anyone.

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KaiserSolze · 46-50, F

My mum basically told me the same thing.

I had some therapy.

Anyway regardless of that :

It's better to use yourself as your own yard stick. Measure yourself against yourself.

Secondly it sounds like you met a narcissist or a sociopath. Only difference between the two from the targets after effects is a narcissist didn't do it on purpose but a sociopath did. They systematicly destroy your life, make you reliant on them and then leave you.

This is your chance to rebuild yourself, find out what you like, what you want to do and make some friends - become self reliant, become your own best friend, master of your own self esteem.