I Think I Am Ugly
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I Think I Am Ugly

What a stressful day it's been. All I want are strong arms around me to give me comfort. It's times like this that I wish I were still young and beautiful. Men want to hold the young and beautiful, not the old and ugly.
😔 *sigh*
Carissimi
70-79, F
22 replies 61 views Jul 13, 2017
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WildHeart · 41-45, F
A good man looks for attraction that lies deeper than the skin
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berangere · 80-89, F
No, you are not,being older should not make you ugly in the eye of a caring friend.I do not have a "boyfriend" but I have a good male friend I can share quite a lot with,it is male company without the commitment of a closer relationship.But if you could make male friends who like you for yourself and not because you are young and pretty,(and those are not woth bothering with as they are shallow),something more could develop over time,I hope you do not think I am preaching to you. But those men who only will love you for your youth and beauty are not worth bothering with as you could not even make a friend of them.
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Carissimi · 70-79, F
@berangere I've never had male platonic friends. Never met a man who only wanted a platonic friendship with me. Now, I don't meet any men at all. That's partly my fault because I don't like what age has done to me. Couple that with 25-years of rejection, and that keeps me in self imposed isolation. Better I reject myself than have a man do it. Yes, its left me with issues, and being older and time ravaged just adds to how bad I feel.

You are blessed to have a male friend like that. Does he hug you when you need one?
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berangere · 80-89, F
Yes he would if I needed a hug, his wife was a dear friend who died of cancer 3 years ago,I worked with her husband who now is my friend.I think platonic friendship with guys is better than friendships with women.If you could meet someone on the social level and become friendly with them,it could fill your need for companionship without more commitments and often such frienships can become more intimate.
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Carissimi · 70-79, F
@berangere I'm sorry about your friend, but it's good you have each other for comfort and hugs.
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jim44444 · 70-79, M
[quote]Men want to hold the young and beautiful[/quote]
I will not disagree with your statement but the terms young and beautiful are subjective and interpretative. Young is anyone born a day later than me. Beautiful is what I see at that moment and it is rarely just the body.
I do disagree with your statement
[quote]not the old and ugly[/quote]. The concept of old is merely the flip side of young. And ugly is no more relative than beautiful.
I hold or hug someone because I care about them. I can only hope someone cares enough about to hold me when I need held.

I am sorry to hear you had a stressful day.
I hope the virtual hugs from your online friends helps.
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Carissimi · 70-79, F
@jim44444 Virtual hugs are always welcome, Jim. I don't know how I'd still be going if it wasn't for EP, and kind people here.
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PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
You are not old and ugly! You are like a fine wine! Gets better with age. If guys only see the outward you they arent seeing the real you!
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Carissimi · 70-79, F
@PTCdresser57 What men don't care about physical beauty? Not many.
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ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
Sorry you've had a stressful day. It's been way to long for me too. We need someone to touch us at ANY age.🙏
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Carissimi · 70-79, F
@ravenwind43 I remember writing about needing to be held 5-years ago, on EP, after decades of no touch, and nothing has changed except I learned to live with it, but some days...some days...it's hard living without touch and being cared for.

Now it's too late.
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SageWanderer · 70-79, M
I'm a hugger and would bevhappy to hold on for awhile. And I bet your a classic lady too!
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MartinII · 70-79, M
I'm sure you are not ugly. And I have always preferred the older woman - well, until fairly recently anyway. 🙁
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MartinII · 70-79, M
@Carissimi No not too old - my partner is quite a bit older than I am. It's just that when I was younger, the idea of being with an older woman had a special attraction. It isn't quite the same now! But I shouldn't generalise.
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Carissimi · 70-79, F
@MartinII I expect when you were younger, an older woman was under 45, not someone in their 60s affected by ravages of time.
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MartinII · 70-79, M
@Carissimi Well, at one time that was true. But even in my 50s I was attracted to older women. I met my partner when I was 54 and she was already over 60, though she didn't look or admit it. But now at 66 ...

Oh, the ravages of time. ❤️
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Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M
I dunno, my wife is in her 60's almost 20 years older, so youth is not always a factor, and beauty is relavant, to each individual.
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melbeacher · 56-60, M
Sending you a big cyber hug and a kiss on your neck.
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