I Am Married But Lonely So how do you all handle the loneliness? A hobby? Lol! I don’t really h...

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NKogneeto · 51-55, M

Did you ever get this resolved?

I truly believe in making sacrifices to keep a marriage but I stayed in a loveless one for 25 years for the sake of the kids who I basically raised by myself. When I couldn't take no more I left. The kids (now older and had their own lives) somehow resented me for leaving their mother and cut me off. Wish I had left when they were young and ironically would have been better for them. I made exceptions and tried to convince myself every day that she would change and show some interest and love but all I was doing was fooling myself. There's love out there for you, which is closer than you could ever imagine.

LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

I'm sorry to hear this. It's a shame whenever it happens. 💔 I have two suggestions, though I suspect you're not going to like at least one of them.

A. Go to counseling without him. Use the time to sort through your thoughts and emotions. A counselor's office gives you a safe place with somebody trained to help you through the process.

B. This will sound cold, so I'll apologize for that in advance. Move on. Staying in a bad relationship "for the kids" very very rarely works out, and you (general "you" not you specifically) end up regretting it, or worse resenting all the time you lost. More importantly, kids are observant. They'll almost certainly know something is wrong. And whether they do or don't notice, think about what sort of relationship you're modeling for your kids. Presumably you'll want them to have happy, healthy relationships when they're adults. One of the best ways to help that happen is to show them what a happy, healthy relationship looks like. And "staying married for the kids" is not an example of that.

Now, that said... by all means take my suggestions one step at a time. Keep seeing the counselor and let him/her help you work through everything. I suspect you'll come to the conclusion that moving on is in everybody's best interests - yours, of course; but also the kids and even your husband.

76starships · 46-50, M

I’m sorry to hear that. You’re definitely missing the best friend part. It’s a shame that he’s oblivious to the fact that you’re missing that part. I hope you can carve out some time to do something you love.

Northerner · 70-79, M

This happens to a lot of people . we spend too much time trying to create a successful business and neglect the important things in life. I wish you good luck in finding a solution.

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

this is agreat place to find friends to talk to and no one can judge you drop a line if you need some one to vent to i understand all to well what your going thru

Pawan · 31-35, M

Don't worry such face comes in all relationship for a certain period of time but as on time passes it recovers too, good luck

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

It sounds like husband has settled into a comfortable rut and isn't interested in putting in the effort to crawl out of it. It may not be that he's happy with it — he simply doesn't want to do the work.

You want to stay together for the kids. Understandable, but it's also one of the worst mistakes parents make, as this situation inevitably leads to anger and resentment between the parents, which is worse than just pulling the Band-Aid off and moving on.

jlsdjfhasdljfhasdfa · 41-45, M

I am sorry to hear that, it is unfortunate that there way too many relationships are hitting this bump. I used to think it was only women who lost interest in sex/intimacy, it is men too, rather shocking..Good for you for working hard at it. Does he recognize that he is denying your needs?

Spectre128 · 51-55, M

Hanging out on SW helps, but so do hobbies and interests,you are much more than a partner, mother, worker...got to take some time for yourself, and maybe he takes interest in you once again before losing you.