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So is this normal behavior

So I've only worked in an office for about a year now and I was just wondering if it's normal for your co-workers to come into your office pick up something off of your desk look at it move it around and then put it back somewhere in a completely different spot than where you had it. And then pick something else up and do the same thing while they're talking to you.

I can't stand this.
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
So this is something I've seen.
I noted it with a colleague and food.
Situation, Monday mornings we get free pastries to accompany our team meeting.
Sometimes there are left overs which we put in the kitchen.
Said colleague took a call whilst he was in the kitchen, got distracted and started fumbling one of the croissants.
Instead of taking it with him or throwing it away he left the partly destroyed croissant on the board.
Having seen this, I got a piece of tissue and picked it off the board and threw it in the bin.

Now whenever there's pastries I make sure I get mine before said colleague has been near them.

Could this be nervous energy? Could this be a power thing? Could this be some kind of absentminded behaviour? Could this person just not even be aware theyre doing it?
Honestly I don't know. But it's not great. It's unfortunately part of working with others .
@Mellowgirl Understandable. I don't do that either, but I am able to notice the patterns (yeah-that's an empath for ya), and thus...that makes it even harder for me to simply "5 D's" anything. Yes, I just dropped a Dodgeball reference.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Amyrakunejo sorry I reread my comment that came across rather rude.
I think I'm just a bit diagnosed out. If that's the right way to put it.
I get that people have things going on. But in some instances I feel like instead of it helping us to develop a level of compassion and consideration it's caused us to accept behaviours like in this instance isn't particularly pleasant and shouldn't even be deemed acceptable.
But, there is no one fits all solution, is there, @Mellowgirl? Nope, and I am okay with that.
You need a barbed wire electric fence to keep out the wildlife.

My late husband and I frequented a restaurant where we loved the food, but where an annoying manager would come and sit down with us for 15-20 minutes. I whined to my husband that he was so annoying. My husband went to his shop in the basement and made a lovely little easel stand of wrought iron with a fancy sign with the NO symbol and at the bottom, “No managers please. “ and the next time we went there, he pulled the sign out and set it on the table.

We were unbothered with managers after that.
Cigarguy · M
@Mamapolo2016 maybe I should do that lol.
@Cigarguy You could, probably. You could make a sigh that says, this is my stuff. Go touch your own stuff.

But I’d check with the boss first.
Levenrack · 46-50, M
Trying to show off their multitasking skills? But, yeah definitely odd behavior, though I personally think, I've never seen it myself.
Levenrack · 46-50, M
@Cigarguy me either, never had to.
Cigarguy · M
@Levenrack I probably should of hit back but I didn't
Levenrack · 46-50, M
@Cigarguy You want to talk about it. Feel free to message me. Anytime 😊
MethDozer · M
Eh, Ive had this habit in the past. Not justifying it but it's almost an involuntary thing when you have uncontrolled and ADHD and you arent aware and working on controlling it.

It's a weird nerveous habit with adhd that we do until we are made aware of it and choose to worknon controlling it.
Adrift · 61-69, F
No.
If I do notice something interesting, I usually just compliment it or ask about it.
I don't mess with other people’s stuff.
Cigarguy · M
@Adrift I was just checking I have a lot of crazy issues so I wanted to see if it was just me. So I'm glad to know this isn't normal
Adrift · 61-69, F
@Cigarguy Its probably because they were never taught any manners.
Cigarguy · M
@Adrift I'm so glad I'm not alone in feeling that this is weird and people shouldn't do that LOL
Teslin · M
Nope, that is not normal.
Hopefully you ate only dealing with 1 person who does this?
Cigarguy · M
@Teslin yes pretty much and she's not in the office every day
Teslin · M
@Cigarguy You may have to drop a subtle hint !!
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
Some people are unaware of what they are doing; it's amazing really.
Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
https://youtu.be/KqxjRzzGn8k?si=ooZNnTF5YPLdEmeG. I think people have been watching Office Space a little too much.
Cigarguy · M
@Barefooter25 I would really be upset if they did take something out of my office
Matt85 · 36-40, M
atleast they didnt put your stapler in a jelly (jello)
Cigarguy · M
@Matt85 Michael!!
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
Once in a while. Maybe the movement of their hands helps them think.
Cigarguy · M
@Jenny1234 yes but they don't need to touch my stuff
YoMomma ·
Tell them to stop, hands off
Cigarguy · M
@YoMomma I really need a backbone lol
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
No it's not.
I never worked ina office sounds crappy
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Cigarguy · M
@FreeSpirit1 I'll tell my boss you said it was ok if I get in trouble lol
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Cigarguy · M
@Amyrakunejo yeah it really bugs me
@Cigarguy I'm autistic; it would bother me too.
(bothers me just imagining it)
Cigarguy · M
@Amyrakunejo I have bad OCD and Anxiety. It really bothers me when people mess with me stuff.

 
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