So is this normal behavior

So I've only worked in an office for about a year now and I was just wondering if it's normal for your co-workers to come into your office pick up something off of your desk look at it move it around and then put it back somewhere in a completely different spot than where you had it. And then pick something else up and do the same thing while they're talking to you.

I can't stand this.

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

So this is something I've seen.
I noted it with a colleague and food.
Situation, Monday mornings we get free pastries to accompany our team meeting.
Sometimes there are left overs which we put in the kitchen.
Said colleague took a call whilst he was in the kitchen, got distracted and started fumbling one of the croissants.
Instead of taking it with him or throwing it away he left the partly destroyed croissant on the board.
Having seen this, I got a piece of tissue and picked it off the board and threw it in the bin.

Now whenever there's pastries I make sure I get mine before said colleague has been near them.

Could this be nervous energy? Could this be a power thing? Could this be some kind of absentminded behaviour? Could this person just not even be aware theyre doing it?
Honestly I don't know. But it's not great. It's unfortunately part of working with others .

Cigarguy · M

@Mellowgirl this is why I don't eat any food that people bring in the office because I don't know who's touched it what they've done with it if they've moved it I just can't.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Cigarguy do pastries are shop made. Home made food I'm funny about too. I generally only eat what I've seen them prepare in the office because we have a full working kitchen

Cigarguy · M

@Mellowgirl I don't eat any food at the office

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Cigarguy fair enough

Amyrakunejo · F

@Mellowgirl Autism, ADHD...

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Amyrakunejo no idea. I must admit I don't go around asking people if they have any kind of disorders. I see the behaviour, note it for future reference and avoid or find ways to deal with said behaviour.

Amyrakunejo · F

@Mellowgirl Understandable. I don't do that either, but I am able to notice the patterns (yeah-that's an empath for ya), and thus...that makes it even harder for me to simply "5 D's" anything. Yes, I just dropped a Dodgeball reference.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Amyrakunejo sorry I reread my comment that came across rather rude.
I think I'm just a bit diagnosed out. If that's the right way to put it.
I get that people have things going on. But in some instances I feel like instead of it helping us to develop a level of compassion and consideration it's caused us to accept behaviours like in this instance isn't particularly pleasant and shouldn't even be deemed acceptable.

Amyrakunejo · F

But, there is no one fits all solution, is there, @Mellowgirl? Nope, and I am okay with that.