Me: *pulls out box from my closet* *holds up urn* dang birthgiver you need some lotion

@NativePortlander1970 no no it’s okay I’m understanding what he’s saying and he’s right I think I kept her ashes because I wish we had a better relationship and wished she was a better mom.. I relate to her in ways because both of us were abused by bad men.. my father was a sick man and let alcohol make him a horrible person and my mom never protected me because she was afraid of him but blamed me when I spoke out to save myself.. difference between my mom and I is I would do anything to protect my kids even if it meant I’d die trying

@MommaBear She still put her own trauma and blame onto you, that was not right.

@Jayghost trust me she hated me

@MommaBear Oh wow! I'm so sorry. Well as much as I hate to say it, if she's bothering you that much then maybe you should get rid of the urn. I know you may not want to but it may be for the best.

@Degbeme my inner child wants to forgive her but my adult self is trying to protect myself still

@Infamous607 I’m trying

@MommaBear you can do it