Would you feel like you were bother if you called your dad to speak to him and...

Ask him. He may just be concerned that you aren't talking with your Mom enough, or she has told him that she wants to hear from you more.

I'm a Dad and I can assure you I don't always word things like I would like to. Ask for clarification, he wont mind.

I never called my dad, not even once in my life, now that you mention it.

All you can do is take him at his word....don't call him anymore talk to Mom.

I would let him call from now on.

Honestly, I’d have to ask to be certain. It’s possible he’s subtly letting you know that your mother wants to hear from you more often.

He wants you to talk to mom more,but you should tell him how you felt by his "You don't have to call everyday" remark. Some guys are not careful with words and clueless to how it affects you.

some dads and daughters are lucky to speak once a decade,others not at all.Perhaps hes suggesting once a day is a tad much for him

it means you just call without purpose .. and he feels you are wasting his time .. Honestly life was great when phone calls were expensive even locally and you are not at liberty to yak on the phone .. where you are quick to convey the matter and hang up or wait for them to return the call.

And nobody calls just for the sake of calling since they have to pay..

I actually heard that from both parents. My brother is busy and would prefer to call back-. But he never does. My sister doesn't want news and says I must obey her wish never to get the news from me-. About anything. My father is the mean one, though! Sometimes family isn't in the cards!

There's an old poem called "The Fool's Prayer" where the author talks about this sort of thing.

"These hard well-meaning hands we thrust amid the heart-strings of a friend, these feet still in the mire go crushing blossoms without end...Lord, be merciful to me, a fool."

I think I would be hurt, too - but if you call him often and he doesn't usually say such things, I'd give him a pass, maybe change it up by calling my mother a little more and him a little less. I would at least ask him before I allowed it to damage our relationship.

And some people just don't like to talk on the phone, even to those they love.

Call your poor mom. Mom may have voiced her concern about you calling dad all the time and not her. Mom loves and misses you too.

well i don't call my dad every day. is there a reason you call him so much?

Id think hes just trying to get you to talk to your mom more

I have to say yes although maybe your mum says you never call her & he's saying that for her

Maybe he feels that you don't talk to your mom enough

Maybe he just knows your mom wishes you’d call her sometimes

I would love to be able to do that again ! 🥺

Could be that he is anxious feeling that you are only calling him out of obligation

Jeeez. I would never call again