I keep seeing chubby women complain about men not liking their looks online. They should be happy they are not attracting lame guys that are dumb and

Just look for looks right?

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

Yeah I want to lose 40 lbs. I often think if I DONT, not many guys would like me or want to truly date me. But then I've thought, do I WANT those guys who are probably shallow? 😔

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Coralmist exactly. I would like to be a little smaller than I am now, but I never wanna be conventionally attractive because I feel like that attracts the worst types of people.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@DearAmbellina2113 Yes 🐞 Exactly

TexChik · F

@Coralmist Is it shallow to want to be with someone that takes and interest in their own appearance and health? If someone is fit, wont they be more active and healthy? Perhaps I am shallow. I do not find men with a big belly and 3 chins attractive or sexy. I stay fit because I hold my self to the same standards. My husband does the same. We want to be around a long time for each other and be able to enjoy life with our kids and hopefully grandchildren some day .

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@TexChik No it's great to want to be healthy and fit!! I think it's awesome you spend time on yourself 🌸 What I mean is many men, not all, are basing dating a woman on looks ALONE..if one is a certain type of fit..thin or toned. And they've even said too they have looked for a partner based FIRSTLY on that. I like a toned guy, but If I'm talking to a guy who is 30 lbs overweight but is so funny or really down to earth, that equals the same attractiveness to me. I just don't want a guy to base talking or hanging out with me on if I'm attractive 'enough'..you know what I mean?

TexChik · F

@Coralmist yes I do 😊