What does it mean if a parent calls their own child ugly?

It means the parent is so horribly insecure in their own looks, yet is such a narcissist, that they view their child as they would view themselves.

The child does not have their own identity in the eyes of the parent.

In other words, the narcissist parent sees the child simply as an extension of herself. (It's something that happens with female parents more often than in male parents).

If the narcissist parent has [b]very[/b] low self esteem, the child can look like a beautiful child fashion model and the parent will be unable to see the reality.

I grew up in a barrage of criticism about my own appearance. IF the child asserts themselves, the narcissist parent will begin to see them (dimly), as the attractive creatures they are, and as rivals. THEN it will get even worse.

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4meAndyou · F

@curiosi I shouldn't laugh...but...wart hog...😂. You and I both know what it is like to be raised by someone who is supposed to teach you about loving relationships, and who is supposed to love you, and yet they are just incapable.

curiosi · 61-69, F

@4meAndyou She UGLY and morbidly obese, wart hogs' are more attractive.

4meAndyou · F

@curiosi My poor mother was actually a beauty at one time. She had long black hair, and gorgeous high cheekbones. But she did not know how to curl her own hair, did not know how to use makeup, and did not know anything about how to dress or what shoes to wear with what. She was a farmer's daughter, but worse, belonged to a religion that considered vanity sinful.

Unfortunately if you combine the lack of feminine education with low self esteem and sheer and utter laziness, she cut off her beautiful hair, (and mine), and began to put on weight. Then she just got...mean.

SW-User

That parent's a fuckin cunt

Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M

@SW-User prostitution doesn’t come into play here... 😜

SW-User

@Spokeskitties75 running them over does, though!😜

JRVanguard · 26-30, M

They probably shouldn’t have been a parent

PhoenixPhail · M

That's one of the worst things a parent could do.
It means they don't consider the child's mental, spiritual and emotional well-being. It would be felt as a horrible rejection by the child. Very damaging.

Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M

It means that they will probably be murdered when their kid is a teenager

Starchild1983 · 41-45, F

It means that that parent is very sad and broken inside. It means they need to lash out and try and hurt people because of how horrible they feel on the inside. I’m sorry if that has happened it you. Trust me it says everything about them and nothing about you ❤️