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Are narcissists capable of feeling guilt?

I personally don't believe they can. They will surely make us look they feel guilt to get their way.

What do you think?
Peppa · 31-35, F
I think they put on an act for example : "I must just be a terrible person then, because I'm doing all these horrible things and I don't know about it; I should just take myself out and away from all this because I'll only be a hindrance to your life"

They're actually redirecting their guilt.
So you the good person feels guilty for pointing out their wrong doing...

They have a win mindset, being as skilled as they are, they always walk away Scott free.

The only thing they think is, "ha, you're the mug that fell for it!"
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Peppa I could relate to it.

My ex is a narcissist. I was marked as the bad guy for pointing her faults and she would tell me she was immature for doing a mistake and I should be understanding.

Had I done the same thing then all hell would reign on me.

In short I was always a criminal whether she was at fault or not.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Beatbox34 it's tough. To work out who you are when you're with a narcissist.
Because they are always moulding and reshaping the story to suit them.
I can suggest something to my mum like going to the cinema, but before I may need to return something at the shops, being me I'll see what cinemas are showing the film and the times then I ask if she wants to join me or meet at the cinema. Because she can't decided on either things.
She'll come along to return the item... If I ask her if she's decided what cinema to go to because I'm thinking maybe she might want food or not. She will snap and imply I'm forcing her to make all the decisions when the bottom line is in the past when I've given her a strict plan for the day she says I'm rigid and inflexible. There is no pleasing people like this. It's their way or no way.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Peppa I'm really sorry you have to deal with one.

I can relate to how you feel. I used to be very selective with my words because I knew anything I said would be used against me. Above all these people will mould anything to suit their story. I have seen that happen a lot.

There used to be a time when I spoke less and listened more to avoid confrontation. If I did say something and it was against her then she would find every flaw in the book and push it against my throat. Even the ones that she did but I'd become the criminal.
Probably not. Like I self-blame myself if I know I have gone wrong but not everyone is perfect. Being self-aware of things is important as they say, and if however long they are not aware of it and realise their mistakes then they will always think they are right. What makes a strong person is for someone to own up their mistakes and admit their wrong doings instead of blaming someone and making them feel shit about themselves
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Loomingtrees I agree.

It's harder to accept one's own fault but at times it needs to be done for self improvement. We're all human and none of us are perfect. It's safe to say that we're all at fault at times but realizing our faults for self improvement is a huge step. Sadly these people will never change and never learn.
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SubstantialKick · 31-35, M
If you were to guilt trip them, I am sure they probably can. Under normal circumstances though, I highly doubt it.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@SubstantialKick They still won't. It may seem like they accept the fault but they'll manipulate it against you.
Not the way we do. Narcissist lack empathy which is why they are able to brutally abuse others without any remorse. They do have the ability to show regret as they are able to apologize; however, this is by no means is a signal of remorse. You have to feel remorse to feel guilt. They feel regret in not doing what they set out to do.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Justiceforall I agree.
swandfriends · 41-45, F
I have a guy in my life that's pretty much my boyfriend and the 2nd love of my life. He is a true narcissist. I've tried to tell him this before. He's got a lot of rotten personality traits. I'm not sure if he feels guilt, but I believe that he does feel feelings like love and sadness
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@swandfriends I know they can feel love but again the love they feel is what they believe is and not what love is. I can't explain it in words. Yes they're capable of feeling sorrow but not guilt which is why I feel narcissists are heartless a-holes.
No because there is a dark coldness in them that refuses to see that they did something wrong. Always in denial and always right no matter what in their eyes.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@BlondilyOld They will have the self importance that needs to be fulfilled and for that they'll do anything to preserve the image even if they're wrong. They'll push it on the next person and enjoy watching the person deal with the pain.
smiler2012 · 56-60
beatbox34 🤔well one come to mind and i think if you know me by know to who i am talking about and no they cannot otherwise this would be different
Magenta · F
Hmm doubtful as they are in denial and aren't self honest. They see themselves as superior and play the victim.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Magenta Correct
I think they feel something negative and that's what pushes their narcissism.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@midnightrose This I agree.

They're capable of this.
Nebula · 41-45, F
It doesn’t seem like it. If they get caught doing something inappropriate (regardless of what it is) their reaction is more likely to be resentment towards whoever caught them, than guilt about what they did. 😒
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@bijouxbroussard I believe that too. They're known to deflect than accept faults.
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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Jabulani I don't believe that. If they felt that then they won't portray all their insecurities towards you.

My ex is a narcissist. I've saw this time and time in the course of 5 years.
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