Are narcissists capable of feeling guilt?
I personally don't believe they can. They will surely make us look they feel guilt to get their way.
What do you think?
What do you think?
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Peppa · 31-35, F
I think they put on an act for example : "I must just be a terrible person then, because I'm doing all these horrible things and I don't know about it; I should just take myself out and away from all this because I'll only be a hindrance to your life"
They're actually redirecting their guilt.
So you the good person feels guilty for pointing out their wrong doing...
They have a win mindset, being as skilled as they are, they always walk away Scott free.
The only thing they think is, "ha, you're the mug that fell for it!"
They're actually redirecting their guilt.
So you the good person feels guilty for pointing out their wrong doing...
They have a win mindset, being as skilled as they are, they always walk away Scott free.
The only thing they think is, "ha, you're the mug that fell for it!"
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Peppa I could relate to it.
My ex is a narcissist. I was marked as the bad guy for pointing her faults and she would tell me she was immature for doing a mistake and I should be understanding.
Had I done the same thing then all hell would reign on me.
In short I was always a criminal whether she was at fault or not.
My ex is a narcissist. I was marked as the bad guy for pointing her faults and she would tell me she was immature for doing a mistake and I should be understanding.
Had I done the same thing then all hell would reign on me.
In short I was always a criminal whether she was at fault or not.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Beatbox34 it's tough. To work out who you are when you're with a narcissist.
Because they are always moulding and reshaping the story to suit them.
I can suggest something to my mum like going to the cinema, but before I may need to return something at the shops, being me I'll see what cinemas are showing the film and the times then I ask if she wants to join me or meet at the cinema. Because she can't decided on either things.
She'll come along to return the item... If I ask her if she's decided what cinema to go to because I'm thinking maybe she might want food or not. She will snap and imply I'm forcing her to make all the decisions when the bottom line is in the past when I've given her a strict plan for the day she says I'm rigid and inflexible. There is no pleasing people like this. It's their way or no way.
Because they are always moulding and reshaping the story to suit them.
I can suggest something to my mum like going to the cinema, but before I may need to return something at the shops, being me I'll see what cinemas are showing the film and the times then I ask if she wants to join me or meet at the cinema. Because she can't decided on either things.
She'll come along to return the item... If I ask her if she's decided what cinema to go to because I'm thinking maybe she might want food or not. She will snap and imply I'm forcing her to make all the decisions when the bottom line is in the past when I've given her a strict plan for the day she says I'm rigid and inflexible. There is no pleasing people like this. It's their way or no way.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Peppa I'm really sorry you have to deal with one.
I can relate to how you feel. I used to be very selective with my words because I knew anything I said would be used against me. Above all these people will mould anything to suit their story. I have seen that happen a lot.
There used to be a time when I spoke less and listened more to avoid confrontation. If I did say something and it was against her then she would find every flaw in the book and push it against my throat. Even the ones that she did but I'd become the criminal.
I can relate to how you feel. I used to be very selective with my words because I knew anything I said would be used against me. Above all these people will mould anything to suit their story. I have seen that happen a lot.
There used to be a time when I spoke less and listened more to avoid confrontation. If I did say something and it was against her then she would find every flaw in the book and push it against my throat. Even the ones that she did but I'd become the criminal.