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Would you allow your 15 year old to get a nose piercing?

My daughter baited me right into it. I wanted to make her happy because she suffers from anxiety but now I'm having second thoughts.
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
For me it would depend on how visible the after scars would be?

Anything which produces a scar I wont approve of before they are 18.

My daughter is 15 also and recently asked for multiple piercings along her ear lobe, I said absolutely not


She then asked if she could shave a bit of her eyebrow ( apparently its a trend) to this I said yes ofcourse.

Because brows grow back right ✅

She did it then a few days later was sick of it . I said thats ok as no permanent damage. Done Imagine if you had - a handful of piercings?
hmmm she quickly saw my point after all.
smiler2012 · 56-60
@Summerbreeze45 🤫 sounds like your daughter has played you the point is if you put your foot down and say she cannot will she still go against your wishes and defy you
zeeva70 · F
Yes as long as she accepts responsibility to take care of it as it heals. Times have changed.
You might as well let her cause if you don't they just become even more rebellious
You should be glad that a 15 year old boy isn't asking for that. 😅
SW-User
[c=4C0073]i would if they do all chores forever! 😈[/c]
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MissyChrissy · 18-21, F
I got mine too with 15. 🤭
I wouldn’t like it, no. Whether or not I could actually prevent it—I don’t know. 🙁
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
Yes.
I did. My girl was 15.
Her father was soooo mad at me.
But I didn’t care.
It’s her own self expression and its an easy fix if it doesn’t suit the girl, or if she hates it.
It’s easily removed. :)
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@ImpeccablyImperfect thanks! She really has been in better spirits from all the compliments she's getting and to me, that beats her being anxious and depressed.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@Summerbreeze45 I think the anxiety and depression are very separate issues which getting a piercing won’t fix though....be watchful of her! Please 😊

**Not that I’m telling you how to parent. 😣
I got my nose pierced at 14. I say go for it. These are the years where they can get away with it before they have to conform to work dress codes. The piercing will just heal whenever she decides to remove it anyway.
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@MorbidCynic well Saud, thank you
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
sure... long as she/ he cares for it... it's an ancient tradition.

even in my and my wife's family.

i have one.. wife had one.. eldest have 'em....

tradition.
indyjoe · 56-60, M
No. If I had a daughter (or son for that matter), they would not be able to make their own choices and decisions in such matters until they reached legal age.
AuRevoir · 36-40, M
As long as I could sit down and talk with them about the type of piercing and the reasons behind getting them I'm fine with it.

Getting one because it's an everyone else thing, or to attract someone else isn't a valid reason in my opinion.
offingg · 26-30, F
Yes, because if she doesn't have your permission she'll figure out a way to do it anyway. It's just a nose piercing.
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Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@indyjoe now, you are crossing the line and judging parents on their parenting skills. Kids today are more at risk for rebellion and lots of other things because of external circumstances, socially, whatever right? All I know is don't throw stones because I'm sure not even you are perfect parent.
indyjoe · 56-60, M
@Summerbreeze45 I was not judging anyone I was only making an observational statement. I am bowing out of this conversation.
thenightwatchman · 36-40, M
I have loads of piercings, yet no I wouldn't let them. I wouldn't stand in their way, just wouldn't sign anything to say they can, mainly because they are still growing and because it's possible to get bumps on the piercing and it needs a lot of aftercare. Or just not to be played with
thenightwatchman · 36-40, M
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Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@thenightwatchman thanks for sharing I appreciate the pictures and your advice!
thenightwatchman · 36-40, M
@Summerbreeze45 I'm going to say you should let her, because oppressing individual choices is just wrong. Just saying I don't think any piercing should be taken too lightly or a decision to rush into
Rhodesianman · 56-60, M
I wouldnt but look on the brightside she could have asked for other piercings so you got lucky.
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
anxiety needs special attention.

make sure she and you get one a good, open basis.

just adding that, nostril piercings are relative to that logic otherwise.

and anxiety is long term, make sure she gets the help she needs mental and physical.

it isn't always one sided she could have health of the physical also!
i did.

mine was from malignant hypertension. (oh and growing up fostered made me nuts!!!)
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@sighmeupforthat I'm so sorry. Yes it's been a long road and she's come a long way. Always there for my girl.
SW-User
I never had a nose piercing but you only live once so say yes as if it makes her happy and it’s not as dangerous as drugs or alcohol let her go for it. With anxiety it’s horrible and With that you need to put in more effort to give her a good life and equal opportunities , same when a kid is physically ill or disabled. I don’t mean crazy stuff but this seems harmless as long as it doesn’t get infected and as long as you go with someone reliable.
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Rc432017 · 31-35, M
At 15 seems ok. It is a growing trend
iamnikki · 31-35, F
No. Why do they need it?
curiosi · 61-69, F
Nope, I would not.
CodeLyoko · 16-17, M
I think its okay
Alijah · 36-40, M
At 15 I'd be okay with it, as long as my daughter knows how to take care of a piercing. A nose ring can easily be removed if she doesn't like it, and nobody would be the wiser.
Singland · M
No, It is better than tatoos, but any piercing of the skin, or other parts of the body are a risk, especially now!
Ynotisay · M
I wouldn't. And I also wouldn't allow her 'anxiety' to fuel any decision I made. But you know the situation better than me.
She can get a nose piercing when she gets a job and pays for it. LOL
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@YourMomsSecretCrush very true lol
You think what she's doing now is wild wait till she is 18
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@ExperienceDLT that's scary
xixgun · M
No. I am an extremely mean and uncool Daddy
SW-User
You should boost her confidence. Nose piercing is harmless.
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
Thanks for your input everyone. Have to get back to work 🙂
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
That was always my answer and I just caved 😩
SW-User
absolutely.
As long as she knows how to take care of it, doesn’t let it get infected, it should be okay.
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Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
@quietwhispers101 she's had it for a little over a year now
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