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ZedsLeppelin2 · 61-69, F
Ugh...no men are not supposed to hold their feelings in.
As a female growing up with 3 sisters(no brothers) in the 60's and 70', it was our stay at home mom who TRIED to teach her girls to keep our FEELINGS to ourselves...whereas it was actually our "toxic masculine" Marine Sicilian dad who taught his girls to be tough, to express our "feelings" and to never back down to a bully... thus our "Masculine toxic" Dad being the biggest/greatest influence to my sisters and I to become strong minded independent women.
As a female growing up with 3 sisters(no brothers) in the 60's and 70', it was our stay at home mom who TRIED to teach her girls to keep our FEELINGS to ourselves...whereas it was actually our "toxic masculine" Marine Sicilian dad who taught his girls to be tough, to express our "feelings" and to never back down to a bully... thus our "Masculine toxic" Dad being the biggest/greatest influence to my sisters and I to become strong minded independent women.
Foodface · 26-30, M
@ZedsLeppelin2 it comes in handy sometimes doesn't it?
ZedsLeppelin2 · 61-69, F
@Foodface My Marine dad was my HERO growing up....he was tough as nails as well as a kind man....where he taught my sisters and I how to verbally fight back to a bully with our wit, BUT also taught us that if talking it out didn't work out while trying to reason with that bully and they still want to fight you....this is the type of ONE punch that will knock that bully to the ground being embarrassed, and will never ever want to mess with you again.
This is the advice my Marine dad gave to his daughters back in the late 60's...eh now if a Marine gave the same exact advice to his girls in 2019... the snowflakes in our country would call that CHILD ABUSE, thus DEMANDING that the DOD release this monster with a DISHONERABLE discharge, smh.
This is the advice my Marine dad gave to his daughters back in the late 60's...eh now if a Marine gave the same exact advice to his girls in 2019... the snowflakes in our country would call that CHILD ABUSE, thus DEMANDING that the DOD release this monster with a DISHONERABLE discharge, smh.
SarahAndSamantha · 46-50, F
A lot of men do. A lot of men are taught that from an early age. "Big boys don't cry." "man up" "don't be a pussy" All that.
Are they 'supposed to'? I don't believe so. We have our emotions for reasons. To hold them in defeats their purpose, is unhealthy and eventually they come out anyway, and not always in a good way.
But maybe i'm not the best authority on this subject
Are they 'supposed to'? I don't believe so. We have our emotions for reasons. To hold them in defeats their purpose, is unhealthy and eventually they come out anyway, and not always in a good way.
But maybe i'm not the best authority on this subject
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SarahAndSamantha · 46-50, F
@Foodface Expressing and working through emotions in a healthy way is not being a cry baby. And statements such as that are also translated as "big boys don't cry".
I have no scientific basis for this, but I have a feeling if soldiers worked through, and even used, their emotions, as they happened there would be less PTSD. Again, bottled up emotions come out eventually.
I have no scientific basis for this, but I have a feeling if soldiers worked through, and even used, their emotions, as they happened there would be less PTSD. Again, bottled up emotions come out eventually.
ZedsLeppelin2 · 61-69, F
@SarahAndSamantha Oh please, so many of us who grew up with TOUGH AS NAILS dads who voluntarily joined our country's military to put their lives on the line during a war, are getting FED UP and so sick and tired of you progressives TRYING to pussify our young veterans.
Yes, PTSD is a real issue for many veterans, ESPESCIALLY among those men who were drafted/FORCED to enlist during the Vietnam War, which is heartbreaking BECAUSE they were FORCED to enlist to fight in a war they didn't agree with, THAT'S FUCKED UP, so of course messed up their minds.
Whereas my dad at 17 yrs old decades ago who volunteered to join the Marines, KNOWING exactly what he was getting into, still CHOSE to enlist. As did our men and women after 9/11 who VOLUNTEERED to put THEIR lives on the line to serve, protect and defend our great country.
Where now it's you NUTS on the freakin' "progressive" left who now USE and ABUSE our young veterans who VOLUNTEERED to sacrifice their lives...to now think that there is something wrong with them for DOING THEIR JOB of killing the scumbags who want to kill us Americans.
Yes, PTSD is a real issue for many veterans, ESPESCIALLY among those men who were drafted/FORCED to enlist during the Vietnam War, which is heartbreaking BECAUSE they were FORCED to enlist to fight in a war they didn't agree with, THAT'S FUCKED UP, so of course messed up their minds.
Whereas my dad at 17 yrs old decades ago who volunteered to join the Marines, KNOWING exactly what he was getting into, still CHOSE to enlist. As did our men and women after 9/11 who VOLUNTEERED to put THEIR lives on the line to serve, protect and defend our great country.
Where now it's you NUTS on the freakin' "progressive" left who now USE and ABUSE our young veterans who VOLUNTEERED to sacrifice their lives...to now think that there is something wrong with them for DOING THEIR JOB of killing the scumbags who want to kill us Americans.
SarahAndSamantha · 46-50, F
@ZedsLeppelin2 wow. Yeah, I'm simply saying it's okay to have emotions and a man isn't a pussy if he has them, that's it, really. But, sure. I CAN capitalize WORDS too.
Peaceful · F
No. I think it's criminal they are taught to.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
That's what society tells us to do i.e "Man up".
That is a great way to hold it in until you explode.
VeronicaPrincess · 61-69
That's the paradigm.
Foodface · 26-30, M
@VeronicaPrincess explain please
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