Any Rape victims answer ??? Could you date or get to know someone with the same name as your rapist/rapist’s/certain appearance they’re have ?

No it’s not odd… It’s merely a testament to how fucked up rape is… And how trauma of any nature simply leaves an everlasting watermark on the imprint of the mind…

Some people if they were forced to eat food they never liked as a kid can associate the event with being traumatic, and even if they get into health as an adult and learn that the food has plenty of benefits, still can’t bring themselves to touch the stuff, not because of the food itself, but because of the event that took place…

It’s the same situation for you… You don’t hate a person just because they have the same name, or a beard, but you can’t bring yourself to be around that person… And sure maybe you’re missing out, because those people might be genuinely kind to you.. But it is simply something that can’t be helped, exposing the gravity and huge ramifications of what such an act does to the human psyche…

Rape is shit, and no it’s not weird of you to associate things that way… it’s more a self defense mechanism than anything… You had a bad experience, the mind sends warnings to give you a sense of judgment to prevent further bad experiences… Don’t ever look at yourself in a negative manner for such things okay?

That person of your past caused this to occur, and your subconscious is simply trying to keep you safe and alive… It’s self love… Don’t feel bad for it..

I have friends that wont stay in the same room with a guy there. you deal with it as best you can if if that helps then don't worry about it.

I have some nasty ptsd from that and I get very violent at times when triggered. With 27 years of martial arts under my belt, I would probably hurt him.

No, I wouldn’t be able to date someone with that name. For years afterward I would have a panic attack if I heard the name, and it’s a very common name. I couldn’t be intimate with someone that reminded me of that person. It is normal.

You have to recover the best way you can. If that means cant date someone with same name or physical characteristics then thats what you have to do

No, I would not. I wouldn’t even want to date a guy that drinks beer and smoke cigarettes, because the smell is so triggering.

It’s damage;

It’s good to move forward when you can and let go as much as you can, and just like physical injuries if you work on it properly it heals faster, but also like physical damage you can’t just decide your leg isn’t broken and go for a run and be just fine

It’s totally understandable; I was raped as a young teenager by an older gay male and have had no friends that look like him Or have the same name.

Totally normal. His appearance or name is still triggering PTSD in you.

No. In my case its impossible

No I couldn’t

I would not be able to date a man with the same name as the man and the older boy that molested me.