Any Rape victims answer ??? Could you date or get to know someone with the same name as your rapist/rapist’s/certain appearance they’re have ?

Ino I haven’t dated or late someone with the name name of my rapist’s that weird ? I can’t even like someone with a beard because of a rapist in my past is that odd ? Or normal ?

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AuRevoir · 36-40, M

No it’s not odd… It’s merely a testament to how fucked up rape is… And how trauma of any nature simply leaves an everlasting watermark on the imprint of the mind…

Some people if they were forced to eat food they never liked as a kid can associate the event with being traumatic, and even if they get into health as an adult and learn that the food has plenty of benefits, still can’t bring themselves to touch the stuff, not because of the food itself, but because of the event that took place…

It’s the same situation for you… You don’t hate a person just because they have the same name, or a beard, but you can’t bring yourself to be around that person… And sure maybe you’re missing out, because those people might be genuinely kind to you.. But it is simply something that can’t be helped, exposing the gravity and huge ramifications of what such an act does to the human psyche…

Rape is shit, and no it’s not weird of you to associate things that way… it’s more a self defense mechanism than anything… You had a bad experience, the mind sends warnings to give you a sense of judgment to prevent further bad experiences… Don’t ever look at yourself in a negative manner for such things okay?

That person of your past caused this to occur, and your subconscious is simply trying to keep you safe and alive… It’s self love… Don’t feel bad for it..

AsianEyezChulaRp · 31-35, F

@AuRevoir thanks Understand about the food part because something like that happened to me but not with Food but understand about the food part because something like that happened to me but not with food with medication pills my foster mom would hold me down to drink them like so like she was on top of my core knees squeezing my arms trying to force me to drink the pills so because of that it’s hard for me to drink big pills and it’s annoying to keep repeating myself to the doctors that I cannot have big pills I cannot swallow big pills
But yes certain things do trigger people when they’re Younger and they don’t get over it for a while or never yah certain appearance I can’t get to know someone because my rapists