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DrWatson · 70-79, M
I would say an example of tough love would be to tell an adult child who is a drug addict that they cannot move back in with you unless they go for treatment. Tough love means not enabling unhealthy behaviors.
For a child, it might mean "no television until we see your next report card. Start doing your homework and get your grades up." (And only if the child is actually a bright student, and they have gotten poor grades because they have blown things off, not because they are genuinely struggling with school.)
Child abuse is nothing at all like that.
For a child, it might mean "no television until we see your next report card. Start doing your homework and get your grades up." (And only if the child is actually a bright student, and they have gotten poor grades because they have blown things off, not because they are genuinely struggling with school.)
Child abuse is nothing at all like that.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@foldedunfolding What had led you to think you were crazy, or to doubt your thoughts?
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@foldedunfolding Sadly, I know of two families where girls grew up being emotionally abused by one or both parents. In one case, the father is in prison now. In the other, my friend decided as an adult to cut off all connections with her parents. But in both cases, the good news is that the victims have grown in understanding of what happened, grown in self-awareness and self-confidence, and are on the road to healing. I pray that the same will be true for you.
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@DrWatson aww tysm..i have grown so much but still have my challenges and have to teach myself. i am in counseling with someone who truly believes in me, i have paid down my house to the 19th year, in the less than 4 i have lived here..have 2 paid off vehicles after selling the 3rd..and im working on myself before i get into my next relationship.