How do you get over sexual assault
I'm finding it hard to forget or even get over it.
31-35, F
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TinyViolins · 31-35, M
I'm heartbroken for anyone that has had to live through things of that nature. Given my experience with abuse, and the subsequent lost of trust that bleeds into every other relationship, the only thing I can advise is to accept that it happened.
A lot of people try to go back to normal, to push it away, to lose themselves in various forms of escapism, to minimize or ignore the topic altogether, and it's these defense mechanisms that ultimately fail because it never addresses your newfound lack of faith in people or the anxieties that come with being around people.
Run towards these problems, not away from it. Write about how you really feel about what happened. About the person or people who do it. About what changed for you afterwards. About why you think they did that to you, or what did you get wrong about your judgment of them, It happened to you. Trying to force yourself to forget it won't ever change that.
Once you realize that you're letting some morally crippled, emotionally bankrupt, self-serving narcissist live in your head rent-free, you can start to forgive yourself and heal. You owe it to yourself and your future happiness to realize you don't have to be the person they made you
A lot of people try to go back to normal, to push it away, to lose themselves in various forms of escapism, to minimize or ignore the topic altogether, and it's these defense mechanisms that ultimately fail because it never addresses your newfound lack of faith in people or the anxieties that come with being around people.
Run towards these problems, not away from it. Write about how you really feel about what happened. About the person or people who do it. About what changed for you afterwards. About why you think they did that to you, or what did you get wrong about your judgment of them, It happened to you. Trying to force yourself to forget it won't ever change that.
Once you realize that you're letting some morally crippled, emotionally bankrupt, self-serving narcissist live in your head rent-free, you can start to forgive yourself and heal. You owe it to yourself and your future happiness to realize you don't have to be the person they made you