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I'm on the verge of a major breakdown

I am so distraught and overwhelmed and afraid. I'm having all these feelings that I don't know what to do with. I can't talk to anyone about them, and I don't have a therapist because I can't afford one. 😞 It feels like an epic depression is on it's way.

I am stressed out about my job security, stressed because I don't get insurance through my job so all of my health issues are currently going untreated, I'm scared that I'll never get to see my family again before one of them dies, and I am finding myself pushing away my boyfriend because I don't want to burden him with all of this and I have never been good enough for him anyway. I love him so much but I can't understand why he wants to be with me. It's all doing my head in.

I spent the entirety of yesterday evening in my room, alone, and I skipped both lunch and dinner. That's exactly what I used to do in my anorexic/depressive years and so naturally I'm freaking out that I may be relapsing into the eating disorder.

I really wish I had friends in real life, people who understood me and cared enough to want to help me in times like this. I feel like an island. 🏝
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
I wish I could help you. You mentioned old trauma in a previous post, I am in the same boat. I have been doing my own work because ya can’t afford counselling either. Here’s an amazing one that can help. Big hugs!!!

SW-User
Go to the help center here on the site....they have all kinds of free help from depression to eating disorders. Nami is good to get in contact with. There are also helpful chats SW has listed for assistance. I have dealt with mental illness for years. I am familiar with Nami....just check out the help section and be kind to yourself. I know its hard.....but, heres a lifeline!! 🤗
Northwest · M
You are depressed, that's obvious, but do you also have goals you can work toward, that will help you out of your depression?

Is there anything you can do about your job security situation? What would be a job you can do that would offer you job health benefits? Can you figure a way to get that job? Can you leave your home and take a walk in nature? spend time in a park? Make yourself available as a volunteer in your community?

People in relationships, are there for each other, but they should not be the sole support mechanism, else the relationship will become one-sided. Only you can help you.
SW-User
my heart squinched when i read this. i don't know exactly what is good to say, but not eating is not good. that was stupid to say, you already know that. have you cried yet? i want you to do the scariest thing ever and talk to your bf. if you are pushing him away, and you fear that opening up to him will do damage, what do you have to lose that you aren't already trying to lose? i sure hope i'm not upsetting you. pls talk to him. you are worthy of the support he can give you.
Menetics · 26-30, F
That’s a lot you’re going through. You’re not alone though. You have your partner. Let him help you get through it. If I was him, I wouldn't want to be shut off. It only makes me question if you love me enough to need me. At least that’s how I felt.

Have you ever tried reaching out to an old friend?

Why not look for another job?
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@Menetics I've been looking for another job but no luck so far.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@DearAmbellina2113 Don’t give up, there’s the right one for you. I wish you all the best.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
I really hope you can talk to someone, why not your bf? He cares about you I'm sure the I'm not worthy stuff is a just in your head I bet.

Good luck to you it doesn't seem good where you are right now
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@OldBrit he's dealing with a lot of his own stuff right now, I don't want to pile on.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
@DearAmbellina2113 at least tell him you don't feel right and feel a depression maybe coming - that way he knows at least otherwise he might feel you are isolating from him because of something he's done.
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
I think it’s necessary to eat, will help you stay healthy!
Maybe you are over worrying which makes it even worse
Breathe deeply
Relax
Try to keep well and step by step move forward
Belladonna · 41-45, F
Sorry I didn't see this before. Stupid SW algorithm. I'm glad you were able to talk to your boyfriend, and I'm glad he's so supportive. 🤗
pdockal · 56-60, M
Gives you a bear hug
hikikomorii · 31-35
Stop wallowing in self pity and be more proactive
hikikomorii · 31-35
@DearAmbellina2113 take responsibility over your life ,work on visiting your family,dont enter relationships that cause you so much stress before resolving your insecurities. And dont freak out over missing some meals , everyone does. Including people who have or are struggling with EDs
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@hikikomorii "take responsibility "?? Lmao
Responsibility is all I've had placed on me since I was 10 years old. That's part of the reason I'm fucking broken now.
I'm unable to just hop on a plane and visit family- they're thousands of miles away and I don't earn enough to afford a trip or have the spare time to even take one.
"Don't enter relationships that cause you stress", ok, so basically stay single forever...how does that help with the isolation exactly?

You know what- nevermind, you obviously have no idea what you are talking about so I'm done with this conversation. Cheers. 🍻
Rickinnc · 51-55, M
@DearAmbellina2113 please reach out to some of the resources available that are mentioned in this post.

Also the National Suicide Hotline 988 will connect you to mental health and counseling resources based on your zip code that are free….please get someone to talk to…please pick up the phone and reach out. I’ve been where you are…sadly it took a 30 year section of my life witj broken relationships and all kinds of issues to reach out…thankfully since I did 5 years ago my life has been the happiest and most productive ever! There is AlWaYS HOPE!
monellla731 · 46-50, M
i have felt like that as well sometimes it is good to speak with a doctor and see what they recamend
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him what’s going on. You also need to eat because not eating is going to make you feel worse.

 
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