Inquiring minds wanna know….

When I think of the biggest worst losses I've experienced my mind goes to people or pets who have died and it hurts like hell that they are no longer with us but the thought of never having known them is far worse.

When it comes to ex-partners even the shittiest ones still have a small place in my heart, when you love someone that doesn't just evaporate because you are no longer with them and although I'd prefer to not have gone through the shit some of them inflicted on me I still feel it was better to have known them regardless of that, as it's all part of what makes me the me I am today.

Love feels so powerful that it feels better to have love and lost initially..

But going by my personal experience I would rather have never gone there in the first place...

So while I have the duality of quite obviously, having said on multiple occasions how grateful I was to experience such strong feelings and to know the truths of the world due to those feelings..

As time passes and more self-reflection and separation from the wayward feelings of great romantic love trickles down into a shallow pool of emptiness...

I can quite clearly state that nothing was gained from it, and that instead everything was taken from me in the process...

It would have been better to never have loved at all... It is too much of a reckless drug.

Romantic Love's value is only in the form when it stays. All other forms of love have far more value to them. Which were all the forms of love I had before romantic love. Romantic love causes you to neglect the other forms of love in its pursuit. Causing you to miss out on so much more that the others could substantiate within ourselves.

In its permanence it is the ideal love we all wish to hope and strive to achieve. But without that pillar it is ashes in the mouth, and a bitter poison to swallow.

I was devastated last summer when a short affair with a lovely man came to an end. But I'm over it now and very glad the affair happened.

I think it depends on who you lost. Like I am so thankful for the life I had with my mom, but I know I'm better off without my dad. I had a boyfriend kill himself and I assure you I'd of been better off without him. But I wouldn't live in a world where my son didn't exist.

Some people are worth it, some aren't.

I think it's very easy to regret the chances you never took because all you have are the experiences (good or bad) that you saw to conclusion.

What if are the words of regret when you look back

I had someone have an affair on me, we healed together, I think from the affair at times... I stayed, loved and lost, but also feel I have a love (now in friendship in a kind of trust we only know)... I won't give up the time we had.

I also know, we lost each other years later, and what we had found in each other become distant. Complicate that a thousand times, I became her best friend after we parted when she was losing her father to cancer. So the pain never quite outweighed the good times, we just had to adapt together as intimate friends. I knew her emotions as well I could and would listen.

You learn. You always learn something. Some lessons are painful... though on the long run, that wisdom will eventually serve in your best interest. Every coin has two sides. Maybe you had to meet that specific person at that specific time of your life because something in them spoke to your heart and helped you survive. Maybe you had to let them go because you now need something different. Or maybe they have changed and need something different. Maybe you are just not really compatible in terms of temperament but knowing someone well just takes time. In that case it is better to have loved and lost than to have loved and stuck with someone for some kind of unfulfilling life. Be true to your heart. Be with someone who is true to theirs (and to you). And often, alone is better than in an unhappy relationship :)
Always know that there is a chance to meet someone extraordinary every day 💗

I’m very grateful for a few of my past loves, a few were hard lessons to learn and in getting over them I healed a lot. The Narcissist was the biggest and where I learned what it even was AND that my mother is a Narcissist!

A life lived with experiences is a fuller life than one lived without.
Love is a beautiful experience.
The trick is in figuring out how to detach....so you can love again.

I’ve had my share of heartbreaks, yet I’d still say I’d rather have the memories than nothing at all.

Sometimes loving each other the best you could just isn’t enough. 🙂

I say definitely love and lost. I know the pain well. But with so little time on this earth, I will have no regrets. And I know when you are ready there will be a line waiting for you. 🤗

You look ahead and not back theirs no point dwelling on what could have being ♥️

Better to have loved and lost, learn and grow from it, than to never experienced any.

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I think so.... "TRUE"! How sad would it be to have never loved at all.

If you never did it you'd never know and there's no growth in that

Sometimes that loved and have lost can hurt for a long time.

It's certainly better to have loved and lost. I have had many long-lasting and loving relationships with married women who would never leave their husbands. Always saddening.

I think it depends on how well you can cope with the loss. But I can assure you that I'm really glad I have never had a pet so I don't know what it's like to lose one. It seems quite painful.

I would have once said it was better to never know love , so one would never know the pain of loss of it.

But after being here, and seeing the laments of those who have never found that connection - it has changed my mind, and made me see, that despite the hurt and pain, there was also once a beautiful experience.

And experience is what gives us perspective and wisdom.

Love is what we are all here for, I'd do it all over again even the bad ones. You learn and grow from it.

I think that it's better to have known love than it would be to not have known loved.

never loving and being loved is so much worse then the alternative

I have met a couple of women who are widows, they are just stuck in the past and probably dont even want to move forward because otherwise they feel they have lost the connection, I dont know if I want to end up like that🤷

I think it’s better to have loved at least once for the experience aspect