To anyone having a bad today, no you're not!

- Not sure if y'all remember last year when a truck dropped a huuuuge, aircraft level HUGE piece of shrapnel across 2 lanes of traffic, causing 10k of damage to my vehicle? And causing who knows how much for the other car behind me? And DIPPED FROM THE SCENE? And how my car was in the shop for 4 MONTHS bc the body shop SUCKED?
- Well I had a 2nd vehicle then. Still do. But, I got a NOTARIZED, SIGNED COPY CONTRACT with someone I THOUGHT was my friend, and loaned him my vehicle. He put 7700 miles on it in a month and a half bc he was running DRUGS apparently. He also broke the display, my glove compartment, and part of my door. It is undriveable, so I don't have a backup car.
- Got a ticket for my inspection being out. Took my remaining vehicle (y'know..the one the smuggler guy DIDN'T destroy and get impounded for $500 and DIDN'T run $400 in tolls in my name in) in to be serviced.
- Guy at the auto place says my axles are still messed up. After FOUR MONTHS in the body shop, I'm looking at another 1k in damage to fix.
- Went to two stores to get groceries stocked bc I knew I wouldn't have a driveable vehicle for awhile. Spent $170, prepped a bunch of food, etc.
- ENTIRE FRIDGE AND FREEZER WENT OUT TODAY, AND RIGHT AFTER I CANCELLED MY WARRANTY EARLIER THIS WEEK.
- You have to wait 30 days to use the service if you get the warranty again. I had waited 30 days, issue seemed to have resolved itself and I didn't want to pay $125 to have them come out, so I cancelled on the 30th day.
- Melted a bowl on my hot pan.
- TORNADO threat in my area tonight.
- OPE! Just got notice that my front and back brakes need replacing too

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Punches · 46-50, F

How come every man you get involved with in any way turns out to be a los3r or criminal?

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foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@AntisocialTroll thank you very much for seeing and saying this. I absolutely do not "hang out" with criminals on PURPOSE. They love bomb me and I fall for it bc I have a very deep longing for the love I didn't get. This guy OBVIOUSLY didn't portray himself as a criminal to ME. He said he needed a vehicle to get to his new job, and was having a hard time. I said okay, but we need a notarized contract. I printed one off a legal zoom type website, had a notaŕy come over, and he signed. The deal was that he would pay me 400 a month. FOUR HUNDRED A MONTH THAT I WANTED TO PUT TOWARDS MY FRIEND ADOPTING AN ABUSED CHILD @Punches!!! He then made off with my vehicle, and I didn't get it back until he got it impounded, and was arrested.

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@Punches ALSO, I have a VERY stable group of friends now, I have never touched a hard drug in my life, I have never even gotten a misdemeanor, I have worked the same job for 10 years, I have purchased a home on my own and paid it down 70% in 5 years, have a paid off suv and, until i sold one, 2 paid off sedans. I have friends I make food for, I have friends I pray for and vice versa, I have friends who help me and I help them. Every once in awhile, a guy sees I am heavy and must think I have low self esteem, even though I love myself..he smells the blood in the water from my mom-shaped hole. hope this helpsss

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@Punches If you would like a profile of each of the friends I have now, I can tell you about the 3 women that are married with families of their own, the man who works for a nonprofit, the woman in my neighborhood who gets grocery pallets and sells the goods on the cheap then delivers them for free, who ran for county board, the other woman in my neighborhood who helps everyone, and who I help when I get the chance, etc. But thanks for the judgement. It has always been there from you; this is not the first time. But thanks for kicking me when I'm down, beloved!

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

@foldedunfolding I don't know Punches, ignorance of the trauma response some of us are left with must be bliss.

Maybe she calls herself Punches because she enjoys punching down at others to make herself feel better

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@AntisocialTroll little does she know, it is my stage 4 dad's bday today, and he didnt acknowledge mine on the 27th, bc my family disowned me by email. they couldn't see it in their hearts to see why i had trouble being around a mother who said i had "spread my legs" when i was raped of my virginity, you see.

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

@foldedunfolding I'm sorry you are suffering so much today. Some people will never be able to understand.

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@AntisocialTroll thank you sweetie. hopefully i can cry it out and get on with my day. super shitty way to start a morning tho, tellya what.

Punches · 46-50, F

@AntisocialTroll No, the username "Punches" is a joke. When people block me, they can say "I blocked punches". You can tell how serious I take this place. 😄

It's a talent, bought about by a traumatic childhood, it leaves some of us with PTSD and a tendency to pick absolute s***theads to be around us...

I think a lot of us have had our share of that. These days I do whatever I can to not let people too far into my personal life.

@foldedunfolding I probably could have worded it better. I apologize for that.

We have to assume by default that people are going to eventually turn bad or try to take advantage of us. Your heart is in the right place wanting to help people. One just cannot expect their kindness to be reciprocated. Sometimes we help people a LOT and then they or their family will spit in our face. I had that happen to me when my old room mate passed away.

It sounds like you have your life together with a decent home, job, couple of cars, etc. You just have to think, "Do I want to risk my well being for someone who could come in and disrupt everything?"
I understand the longing for connection but for me, I would rather be lonely and have a peaceful life than have connections and be miserable.

But anyways I didn't mean to upset you.

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@Punches well i cried for a full hour, first thing this morning. I clearly laid out in my post all the things I am currently struggling with. While everyone else heart and care reacted, no reacts from you..JUST a victim blaming statement that I have received all my life. It is my dad's bday today, and he disowned me for being raped of my virginity. So on top of EVERYTHING ELSE in this post, I am dealing with that, and the fact he has stage 4 cancer. All my LIFE I have been blamed for things that were not my doing. And allll of that came flooding back. I think you proobbbably had an inkling of how you worded it AS you worded it, and knew it wasn't necessary to both say at all, or say publicly.

Punches · 46-50, F

@foldedunfolding My "reacts" are sporadic, so it was nothing personal that I didn't "react" to the OP.

I know things can be rough, it's like life wears us down to the nub.