maybe yes. if the other person is worthy, no harm in relaxing our rules

I feel this 😧

If behind yourself implies making people feel uncomfortable around you, then look for people you have more in common with. But if being yourself means hurting other people, I would suggest to start reading eastern philosophers. If you're not doing so hey. ;-)

As gently and respectfully as possible, but you can't control the other persons reactions.

I'd be honest, yet understanding & compassionate towards that other person, unless they're directly opposing me, then I would be more straightforward.

With compassion for myself and good wishes for others.

If it's someone I care about, I try to make them understand.

That's the way the life goes...

They get hurt, there is no other way

No one does. Some one has to get hurt.

We explain.
We talk and talk until they understand.

As a sadist, probably get an erection?