I’m happy these days but I feel I’m missing a lot too
My therapist tells me I’m simply prioritizing now — putting things that require my constant immediate focus. The biggest one, of course, being my son Lucas. It made me feel a little better when he told me many new parents have conveyed the same feelings to him and that it’s just a big new adjustment they all go through. I’m told maybe the things I’m missing now are also important to me (plenty are) and it’s not that I feel they no longer are, it’s just that I’m putting what’s most important to me first, as one should. While I am feeling I miss out on a lot now, I really do feel happy being with my baby every day. I love him more than anything… and I suppose there’s my answer to the problem I’m feeling. My therapist also added the perspective that this period of “missing out” I’m feeling is very short in the grand scheme of things; that as Lucas grows up, I’ll have more time to reconnect with things I used to be more attentive to regularly when it’ll be safe and healthy to do so. The mini struggles of being a new mother, I guess.




