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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I don't know how to word it. It was about being put off by things my friends say when I talk about my problems or life in general to them. It's nothing rude or like that and I feel like it's an inadequate reaction from me but it often makes me disengage, it spoils my mood a I don't want to talk to them any further. I wouldn't say I perceive it as clearly condescending or patronizing either but there's this "I overcame this a long time ago and you're behind" undertone to me. They often say something obvious that I know about so I just feel like they are unnecessarily rubbing it in my face and I'm instantly put off. "Well, no shit Sherlock.."

TheHammer · M

@CrazyMusicLover
Like now for example..my inclination is to tell you how I feel and to share my thoughts on how to make it better for you.
I would say that usually people come with good intentions even tho they might not use the best method.
I'd say if I think they are coming from a good place I'd just lighten up and say something like ...I know ...I know...
If I feel they are being a condescending jerk, then I wouldn't talk to them about my things anymore.

But I don't know if you're thinking...screw this guy, who does he think he is...

Had you said ... I'm just venting . . This is something that really gets on my nerves

Then I'd say...oh I know...that sucks...

Yes?

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@TheHammer It's good that you can differentiate between those examples in the moment but I really can't just lighten up whatever the intention. 😅 About one person I 100% know it wasn't about condescension at all. It felt more like "I need to reply something and this is the first thing that came to my mind." Who knows, maybe in their mind it was supposed to be encouraging or something positive. But it still spoiled my mood and made me feel more depressed than I was because it showed the chasm between us. And then I just want to push everyone away, be alone and don't talk to anyone until I improve my situation and feel better about myself.

And this is not with everyone. And I can't even tell if some people just know how to communicate to not trigger reactions like this or if I tolerate them more if they do this than the others. I often question myself if I don't have enough respect for them that it riles me up like that or if they truly have the "talent" to say the most wrong thing at the most wrong time. With one, I absolutely knew I didn't have enough respect for because of how he behaved in past. Hence it was really the "screw this guy, who does he think he is..." situation. Like yes, that was the person who I absolutely didn't tolerate criticizing me even if it was justified. I saw his ugly side and therefore in my mind he wasn't in the position to call me out on anything.