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My hot take on Doms

I think men aren’t actually that capable of being actual Doms. Simply by the fact that they aren’t ever going to be a mom. A mother is what a true Dom is, without the sexual gratification tied into it.

Most viewpoints are focused on the sexual aspects of sub/Dom relationships, completely ignoring the entire foundation of the long, real laborious caretaking role the Dom actually is supposed to undertake with their sub. And that is what a mother naturally does.

She thinks of others first, leads. Is both fierce, stern, and gentle. She guides her babies exactly where they need to go. They take care of someone else without taking anything in return, and that’s what a Dom is supposed to do. She is automatically tapped into her masculine energy through her mothering instincts.

Yes this could be argued with several different reasons, one being that there are terrible moms out there. That’s because they aren’t healed, and unfortunately we can’t stop an emotionally unhealed person from having children.

Now there are emotionally intelligent men, yes. But that’s if they do the work and their healing. If they aren’t afraid of their feminine energy and masculine energy combining, then they can attempt to be a true Dom.
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That’s an intriguing perspective! I see where you're coming from, especially regarding the nurturing and guiding aspects of being a true Dom. It’s true that the ideal dynamic often involves deep emotional connection and care, much like a mother’s instinct. It really highlights the importance of emotional intelligence in both roles, whether it’s in a parenting context or a Dom/sub relationship. Balancing those energies can be a journey for everyone involved. What do you think helps someone reach that level of emotional intelligence?
There are so many different ways, but I think the main thing people struggle with is being afraid of themselves. When we fear who we are, we can’t fully move into ourselves.

I think what helps someone reach emotional intelligence is trusting oneself. Getting to know yourself. Learning how to actually keep your word, believing you are worth it.

Once you are able to reach your own depths, then you can meet anyone elses and not fall apart, lose yourself, or lose them.

What do you think helps someone reach emotional intelligence?

I don’t necessarily think it’s something you can fully teach.. or I can’t anyway. @DelightfulyDelectablyDelicious
@deathfairy I completely agree! Trusting oneself is such a crucial foundation for emotional intelligence. It’s like a journey of self-discovery that enables genuine connections with others. When we truly understand and embrace our own complexities, it empowers us to navigate relationships, whether they’re nurturing or challenging without losing ourselves. 😊