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My hot take on Doms

I think men aren’t actually that capable of being actual Doms. Simply by the fact that they aren’t ever going to be a mom. A mother is what a true Dom is, without the sexual gratification tied into it.

Most viewpoints are focused on the sexual aspects of sub/Dom relationships, completely ignoring the entire foundation of the long, real laborious caretaking role the Dom actually is supposed to undertake with their sub. And that is what a mother naturally does.

She thinks of others first, leads. Is both fierce, stern, and gentle. She guides her babies exactly where they need to go. They take care of someone else without taking anything in return, and that’s what a Dom is supposed to do. She is automatically tapped into her masculine energy through her mothering instincts.

Yes this could be argued with several different reasons, one being that there are terrible moms out there. That’s because they aren’t healed, and unfortunately we can’t stop an emotionally unhealed person from having children.

Now there are emotionally intelligent men, yes. But that’s if they do the work and their healing. If they aren’t afraid of their feminine energy and masculine energy combining, then they can attempt to be a true Dom.
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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
This is so well thought out. I’ve “met” my fair share of men claiming to be Doms and found them anything but. They each had severe emotional frailty, and used the title to lure the weak minded into their poorly equipped mental lair for little sessions that would make them feel powerful when they were anything but. Even back then when I was naive and was easily seen as the prey, I could see them for what they truly were. It was such a turnoff to know that I was more dominant than them, and yes, that came from being a mom that shaped me into not taking crap from male toddlers…which is what so many of them actually are.

Just yesterday, I had a dude in my inbox in the 20s age bracket trying to be a Daddy/Dom, and it was so revolting to me. I didn’t even see him as a man, let alone the title he was trying to own.
Lol, this made me giggle.

Not only that, but I could go on and on about the emotional labor a normal woman, who isn’t even a mom, does in a “regular” relationship where there is no sub/Dom dynamic. That alone is a huge contribution to exposing how under qualified most men are to be in any leadership role in relationships..

The physical labor, the mental labor, the emotional labor a woman pours into her relationships is astounding compared to what a man gives. Women are still mothering and raising men who aren’t even claiming to be Doms. @PerfectionOfTheHeart
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@deathfairy

And that’s why so many of us are yearning to just have a man who can allow us to not only feel like a woman, but his woman. Not his mother.