What sucks about always being nice or people pleaser

People think you are justa a giving, bubbly, machine of joy in general, or for them. What they don't see or seem to care about, is the people pleaser is often suffering. Feeling if they didn't give their all in every interaction, they aren't Enough as a person. It's defeating over time and it erodes the already unsteady self esteem.
And people do not ask or suspect the Nice person is barely hanging on to life, feeling almost non-existent.
Kind people need to be consoled too and given comfort. (Irl) It's an empty life fulfilling everyone else.

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Levenrack · 46-50, M

Time to get your Honey Badger on!!!

If what you're doing doesn't come to something positive, for yourself or appreciative family and friends. Then it's not worth doing. I know it's hard to do given the past, but saying no, or saying I have other things going on.

Trust me. The world will still be here the next day. Now having said that, if it's stuff you pretty much have no choice.... I can't help with that.

You don't have to be a dick about it, just start putting that imagery door up that only locks on your side and start locking that damn door. Be that Honey Badger and enjoy the rest of your evening 😊

P.S I'm assuming this has nothing to do with your sister. 100% there for you on that situation.

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Levenrack · 46-50, M

@Coralmist No worries.