Just getting my thoughts out
This is a comment I started writing on a post by Caccoon but decided to make its own post. It may not be fully coherent because of this.
Incels live life on hard mode. Because life is hard living under the weight of their own self-victimisation, it's like carrying a boulder on your back, which gets heavier with every outburst. But the good news is that you can get through this inceldom and out the other side - I know because I've done it. And life is a lot easier without the anger and hatred they so poorly express. It's unlikely anyone will see this, but if you do, just know there is a life worth living outside of being an incel. There are many reasons you might be like this, from closeted homosexuality to autism and veing unavle to understand others to just spending too much time online, but the first step is admitting to yourself that something is wrong, which is deeply unpleasant but very necessary. For me, it was being way too neurodivergent and not like normal people. Once you can do that, you can 'fix' the problem - that might be getting off the internet, or it might be learning to accept that you're different. It's been 10 or so years since I stopped being an active incel (sharing their beliefs and such) and I'm only just now managing to love myself. Sure the thoughts can rear their ugly heads occasionally but I can and do fight them off pretty quickly now. Change is not fast, but it is worthwhile.
The people who need to know these things probably won't see this, but if they do I hope they heed it.
Incels live life on hard mode. Because life is hard living under the weight of their own self-victimisation, it's like carrying a boulder on your back, which gets heavier with every outburst. But the good news is that you can get through this inceldom and out the other side - I know because I've done it. And life is a lot easier without the anger and hatred they so poorly express. It's unlikely anyone will see this, but if you do, just know there is a life worth living outside of being an incel. There are many reasons you might be like this, from closeted homosexuality to autism and veing unavle to understand others to just spending too much time online, but the first step is admitting to yourself that something is wrong, which is deeply unpleasant but very necessary. For me, it was being way too neurodivergent and not like normal people. Once you can do that, you can 'fix' the problem - that might be getting off the internet, or it might be learning to accept that you're different. It's been 10 or so years since I stopped being an active incel (sharing their beliefs and such) and I'm only just now managing to love myself. Sure the thoughts can rear their ugly heads occasionally but I can and do fight them off pretty quickly now. Change is not fast, but it is worthwhile.
The people who need to know these things probably won't see this, but if they do I hope they heed it.
