Does everyone reaaally hate their job but just stay in it and gaslight themselves into liking it ?

Does everyone really hare their job ? I sed colleagues going not just the extra mile but an extra 200 miles for their job knowing it won't lead to a raise or anything. I *despise* this job, thinking of having to do it for another year gives me physical pain. I hate it so much. I've been doing it for a few yrs now and I don't think I'll ever get used to it. I hope I'll be able to leave soon
But seriously is this level of hate towards your job normal ? Do people gaslight themselves into liking miserable jobs where they have to be cheerful and talk... ?!

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Sometimes people just hang on till they can retire and get their retirement and health insurance. I did that despite the management trying to run off those who were within a few years of retirement. After I retired I learned that she was raking in fat bonuses every year for not filling jobs and other such things, probably including running off those who would have gotten benefits if they had stuck with it a year or longer.And telling us most years that there was no money in the budget for raises. And such other types of garbage.

PatKirby · M

@cherokeepatti

Patti, this is exactly what I'm doing. Putting in the last year or two max in a hostile work environment before retiring. Would love to leave next month but oh well, we do what we have to do. I think 48 years in the workforce is about enough, and looking forward to those golden years in those greener pastures.

nothereforpeople · F

@cherokeepatti I'm sorry you had to deal with such snakes. I hope you're better off now

nothereforpeople · F

@PatKirby 48 YEARS! I want to cry

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@nothereforpeople I retired the first day that I was eligible to get my health insurance. It’s funny how some of those snakes were forced to resign due to their actions…including the manager who was gone in less than 2 years after causing lawsuits, the hard-hearted supervisors she hired were also forced out. One the last year that I worked due to mismanagement. Another also got forced to leave after I retired, she was caught doing things that would have gotten charges on any of the rest of us. And a little later the one who was responsible for hiring the manager quit due to her husband getting caught stealing, she had gotten him his job too. A lot more happened as well.

PatKirby · M

@cherokeepatti

Sorry to hear that, but seems like you made a sound decision. We have a very similar situation where I work where to get ahead you must be in a close-knit network, in a clique, or brought in by a relative/nepotism. Could you share how it felt to retire; how it went in HR that day? Any tips? I'm headed in this exact direction soon.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@PatKirby I went to HR about a month before my first eligible day of retirement. They advised me to inform my retirement to my manager. (Because one employee in our department who had been there for 34 years didn’t do that, he went to HR at lunch and they told him he could retire anytime since he was eligible. So he came back at lunch and threw his keys on the manager’s desk and said “I’m outta here” 😂) I was counting the weeks a year before I retired, and the days a few months before that. I didn’t peep out my plans to anyone at work before I retired except that 2 weeks before. It felt good. The interesting thing was that it was in mid-August, and a freakish cool front had blown in the night before and the highs were in the high 50’s that day. So it was memorable for me in more than one way. They had me train the woman that would replace me that morning and had a little cake “party” and a group meeting after that (should have clocked out and went home then). I felt like a load had been lifted off of me. It took a month before I really felt rested enough to enjoy myself again, that’s how bad the stress was. And there were times I would run into someone I worked at in a store and they’d start telling me how much worse it had gotten, the changes that they were making etc. . That was bad enough to hear and it stressed me out again even though I knew I’d never step foot there again. I started going shopping early in the morning to avoid seeing anyone that I had worked with because of that.